So, about a month ago my baby daddy left me for some one else. Yeah, I took it really hard, but I am starting to get over it. I am using a no contact claus with him. I guess it's starting to get to him because he called me today asking why I'm being so mean to him, and why don't I call him. I told him it's because I have nothing to say to him. Then, he asked why we couldn't be friends. I told him because I don't want to. Was I wrong for that? I mean, I was crushed when he left. But, I picked myself up and kept it moving. I am still in school, I found a job, and I've lost a lot of my baby weight since he left. Plus I am so independant. He left me with out a car, so now I take the bus everywhere, and I don't ask him for anything. He is still there for his daughter and a great father. I just don't want him to see me so down. I was very good to him, and the girl he left me for is everything I'm not....(in a very good way.) What are your thoughts on my situation?
2007-01-20 14:41:50 · 5 answers · asked by Stefi13 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well maybe it would be good for the baby to see that you and her dad still have a good friendship. Explain to him why you are mad at him and about the car situation. Or if you feel like talking to him right now just tell him you need some time for yourself, and maybe you will talk to him later. If he wants nothing to do with the baby no support or anything just move on.
Or you can let the dad spend some time with her, and just not really talk to him as friends, just when it comes the baby if he decideds to support her.
I don't think you were wrong for telling him that you didn't want to talk to him, I probably would've done the same thing.
It's good that he spends time with the baby and you have a job and education.
If you do find Mr. Right I think he would understand if her dad spends time with her, I mean he is Mr. Right, right...?
Well anyways, good luck.
2007-01-20 14:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jasmine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're doing everything right. He hasn't shown himself to have much integrity in his relationship with you, how's he suddenly become trustworthy? If he hasn't apologized/taken ownership/understands & accepts why you aren't talking with him, he's being manipulative/messing with your head. Plus, you don't want him anywhere in the picture (other than necessity/being a good father) when Mr. Right comes along.
For Mr. Right, I mean you might not want the father in the picture romantically (unless he really proves himself/works for it). With your history, it could be difficult keeping it to "just friends."
2007-01-20 22:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by joie_du_cor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah let him go, he left you with a kid, if I understand it. Tell him "Come back when you are ready to support us both and take responsibility and get rid of that other girl." If not, move on.
2007-01-20 22:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good to hear that you kept on moving. Keep on keeping on. It will all get better and you will meet a good guy and you will be everything to him. Know you're worth and take care of that little girl. Teach her to drop em if they are not good to her.
2007-01-20 22:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by keysopendoors 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk, he deserves what he gets...you were right to not let him talk to you because he left you for someone else. You should let him know how it feels being hurt.
2007-01-20 22:46:35 · answer #5 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋