why is it that the closer my boyfriend and i get the more i push him away,the meaner i am to him?does this make me a bad person? I really love him and want to marry him some day!!
2007-01-20 14:38:14 · 10 answers · asked by brat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LOL I did that to my now husband...I think maybe i was seeing just how far i could push him and i really wasn't looking to get married...He stuck like glue and now we are together forever...I hope...
2007-01-20 15:13:57 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ive had this happen to me in a previous relationship. and now that i acknoledeg that, it helps me with the relationship im currently in and now im engaged. and looking back i realize that my ex and i didnt communicate as much as is needed to maintain a healthy relationship. so my advice to you, is to just be open with him and ask him to do the same for you. tell him how youre feeling, if youre having a bad day, tell him and tall him why. or if he has said something to you that has hurt you or made you angry. be sure you tell him and tell him why it had that effect on you. and, again, ask him to do the same. if he says something to hurt you, tell him, he may not mean it the way you took it or he can r and r, rephrase and redirect it. i have seen my parents marrage fail because my dad would say things to upset my mom and she wouldnt say anything to him and after a while, it just kept building up inside her. and then she left him, and my dad didnt even see it coming, he thought everything was okay, because they never communicated their feelings and what not. so i strongly suggest you do. good luck and hope i helped.
2007-01-20 14:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by So in love. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally do the same thing. You crave him one moment but when he is there you are totally opposite. me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months. I honestly am not sure what it is but maybe its that whole "too much of a good thing isnt good"
2007-01-20 14:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're just protecting yourself from getting hurt, maybe a bad relationship in the past? Or maybe you don't trust him?
2007-01-20 14:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by littlegirllost 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might be scared of a committed situation FOR LIFE!! Take it slow sweetie. If he is the one, then you wont be able to see spending the rest of your life WITHOUT him.
2007-01-20 14:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by rokdude5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that you should mabye talk to him about it mabye he can tell you if it bothers him hey it's worth a try love Kenadee
2007-01-20 14:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by Kenadee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just afraid that he will reject or hurt you. Let him know that you don't mean to so he can help you to trust him better.
2007-01-20 14:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Megan C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm the same exact way.
perhaps you're scared of getting hurt?
i know why i'm like that. a lot of people are like you and i. we all just have different reasons.
2007-01-20 14:42:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know why, just think of that and do whats needed,
2007-01-20 14:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u don't want to go to fast
2007-01-20 14:55:45 · answer #10 · answered by samantha s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋