I've halfway to seventeen and I haven't yet dated any girl. How do I get enough courage to ask someone to have a date with? I had a kinda low self-worth so I always shy to ask things like that. I fear that I wouldn't be really able to date someone. :(
2007-01-20 14:32:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I waited until my last year in college; I'm glad I spent so much time learning to love myself and forming deep friendships. Life's about *you*, not another person. And it's always somewhat intimidating to ask another person out (unless you're full of yourself or not emotionally invested/looking for fun)
There's a lot to learn about picking up signals, showing signals subtley, reading the reactions to your signals. There's a lot of interplay/feeling things out before many people get up the confidence to ask the person out. And even then, the person could just be playing around with flirtation. You really *don't* know until you ask. Somehow, try to make it feel natural (prep the person, so they're not totally shocked and don't respoind).
2007-01-20 14:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by joie_du_cor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand.
You could find a female friend who could fix you up with a friend, but I think you already have a potential date in mind. There really is no alternative to actually asking a girl out. If you have to, practice by getting a friend or sister to help out while you 'ask' them out. You could enlist the help of a mutual friend if you have one, who could put in a good word for you in advance. It may help to know that the girl will be nervous too, so be polite, even if she says no.
You could ask her out on a group date, like pizza at the pizza place with friends. This may be more comfortable for the two of you because its less formal and not so intimate, and its fun.
Remember that she may not be comfortable being totally alone with a boy on the first date.
The fact that you are nervous about asking means that you probably care about this girl at least a little. Treat her with respect, and be polite. Be sure to open doors, hold chairs for her, and hang up/help her get on her coat, and any other opportunities to show her that you like her. If you show her the respect she deserves, be polite, and show her a nice time, even if you don't go out a second time, she'll tell her friends that you were a nice date, and it will be easier next time you ask a girl out.
2007-01-20 15:00:18 · answer #2 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well what can i tell you but just that you need to over come that self-worth. what you could is just make any kind of conversation with the girl you like, for instence ask her for some help like do you have any idea of these question in what ever subject you have at that moment, then just continue with that and maybe next day make some other conversation like thank you for that help the other day i forget to thank you, then just tell her have you seen that movie bla bla bla if she hasn't well invite her if she doesn't want to so what theres plenty of girls out in the sea, trust me you're still young you have a long way to go, good luck
2007-01-20 14:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by hotrod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When asking a girl out be confident, calm and be yourself. Don't be too needy, if you are too needy the girl will lose interest.
While on the date:
Go well groomed, and with some good cologne. Don't be a pushover in the relationship make her know you can stick up for yourself.
Good luck mate.
2007-01-20 14:39:08 · answer #4 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me,we "all" were scared/nervous afraid of rejection,the first time.Just think about the first time you learned how to ride a bike or skate.even though you fell you still got up and dusted yourself off and started all over again!! You'll look back at this time and have a good laugh.Much Luck!
2007-01-20 14:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by brown1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get off the shyness.Only you that can do that,you have to be outgoing and guts"they love that".Only you that can go to this girl and ask her to go in a date with you,don't waste the time by thinking how I can do that,no fear anymore.It's up to you man.
HAVE A GOOD LUCK...
2007-01-20 14:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by cool_angel_diamond 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so hard on yourself. I didn't get my first girlfriend till halfway through 17. Just chill and be yourself.
You don't have to have a girlfriend.
2007-01-20 14:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by Chip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask someone that you are already friends with, or have been introduced at some point in time. if you're comfortable around a person then it should be easier for you to ask.
2007-01-20 14:36:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
here what i do, i just start messing around with girls by calling them beautiful istead of their names. and after about 2 weeks or so ask them if they want to go out sometime. if they say no, keep on calling them beautiful, like your not even phazed. then ask her out again in like a month.
2007-01-20 14:36:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and just ask someone. If she says no, there's several million other girls out there to try your stylish moves on! =)
2007-01-20 14:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by qamper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋