i have been in "sue's" life since she was a baby so i'm not new to her.but over the last few yrs her behavior has gotten worse.the main problem is she is an only child and both her parents make her think the world was put here just for her and give into her every wish.when i ask sue to do something she answers me rudely.she hates it when my bf does anything with me and will tell he him should be playing with her not doing something with me.she thinks when she comes over she should have her dads undivided attention.my bf is very passive with her to say the least and lets her get away with murder.sue lives with us 50% of the time so all this makes it very hard on me.how can i learn to deal with this since she is not my child and both her parents think she is "their perfect little angel"?
2007-01-20 14:10:29 · 7 answers · asked by nickey7greener 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk it over with your boyfriend. That child needs discipline in her life, and although it is a bit of a touchy thing since you are not the mother, take action. Decide on a behaviour and consequence chart like so:
Sue is disrespectful: Sue misses her snack/movie/whatever
Sue disobeys: Sue gets grounded
Sue murders anyone: Jail sentence.
just kidding about that last one but seriously: make something like that with your bf and enforce it in your home. I personally believe in corporal punishment and my standards for my children would be way stricter but not everyone goes for that so there's some examples for you. don't push your dislike for the kid around the bf tho it won't earn you any brownie points. just say it's unacceptable and focus on the behaviour, not the child, to avoid conflict
2007-01-20 14:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think perhaps the child has a problem which is typical for children here age in this situation however your problem is not with here its with here father its his responsibility discus it with him i am sure you have tried however that the only real solution
2007-01-20 14:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Auther S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unhappy difficulty. relatively she is 7 she is being advised by using her mom all the failings she is spitting at you so she is being confirmed i'm confident and therefor prolly wont provide up any time quickly. Stand your floor along with her, enable her understand, flippantly, and decisively which you wont tolerate that habit at your house of residing. she will do and act how she needs at her mothers yet you have policies at your house of residing and she or he would be waiting to appreciate them. yet enable this be over ice cream or something. Take her out in basic terms the two one in each and every of you to do something relaxing or something and function a communique then she wont sense lots such as you're being the recommend gf. enable her understand the way it makes you sense while she acts out she would be waiting to be waiting to become attentive to with thoughts greater advantageous than the rest and could sense undesirable exceptionally on the grounds which you in basic terms did something relatively astounding for her. consistently undergo in innovations you're no longer her mom in no way would be and thats ok you have your individual courting along with her and it relatively is in basic terms as nicely. in basic terms assure her you do no longer decide for to take her daddy away, you adore her, and you're no longer attempting to be her mommy. she would be waiting to study quickly adequate no remember what every physique says you're no longer the enemy. carry in there sweety it gets greater advantageous......
2016-10-31 21:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by canevazzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a choice you have made - to stay with this man. As long as you are with him you will have to put up with it. You can't discipline her; not your child.
2007-01-20 14:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anne B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THIS BRAT NEEDS A GOOD SPANKIN. BETTER YET SEND DADDY'S LITTLE PRINCESS TO MILITARY BORADING SCHOOL-HAHA. THAT'LL SHOW HER. SHE IS RIDICULOUS, IF SHE WAS MY CHILD-I'D SHOW HER WHO THE BOSS IS! LOOK, TALK TO YOUR BF--THIS ATTITUDE WILL HURT YOUR RELATIONSHIP, AND SADLY ALL BECAUSE OF SUE. IF HE DOESN'T LISTEN TO YOU AFTER YOU TALK, THEN SPANK HER...OR TELL HIM IF HE DOESN'T DO SOMETHING YOU WIILL...LIKE LEAVE HIM..THIS WILL HOPEFULLY MAKE HIM LISTEN.
2007-01-20 14:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's not suppose to listen to you. You're not the boss of her. That's her father's job. Just report her to him.
2007-01-20 14:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
grow up girl..get over it..children will be children.
2007-01-20 14:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by u2ugly2nv18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋