i have been in "sue's" life since she was a baby so i'm not new to her.but over the last few yrs her behavior has gotten worse.the main problem is she is an only child and both her parents make her think the world was put here just for her and give into her every wish.when i ask sue to do something she answers me rudely.she hates it when my bf does anything with me and will tell he him should be playing with her not doing something with me.she thinks when she comes over she should have her dads undivided attention.my bf is very passive with her to say the least and lets her get away with murder.sue lives with us 50% of the time so all this makes it very hard on me.how can i learn to deal with this since she is not my child and both her parents think she is "their perfect little angel"?
2007-01-20 14:09:03 · 10 answers · asked by nickey7greener 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Honestly, I think you're being selfish.
Sue only gets to see her father 50% of the time.
She should have her dad's attention.
Step back and let them have their "bonding time" together.
You have your b/f all of the other time, let them have their time.
2007-01-20 14:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by kabmiller@verizon.net 4 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I think you should talk to her father about how she talks to you. No child should speak to an adult that way PERIOD! She sounds like a spoiled brat. Something has got be done to correct that. Not her being spoiled alone, but her disrespect for others. I understand her wanting to spend time with her dad during the 50% of the time she gets there. However, if she is ONLY doing it to spite you (which sounds like what she is doing), then that's a problem. You must remember that her father will be biase. That's his daughter. But you do need to let him know that you will not tolerate a child speaking to you that way, and if it continues, then you don't want to be around her. You don't deserve verbal abuse from anyone. If he doesn't listen, try to stay away from her as much as possible. That might work.
2007-01-20 17:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by Keetta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she is 7 and you've been in their life since she was a baby, something needs to be done here! First of all, it is okay for her to want to spend time with her dad and to be jealous of you. But on the other hand, your boyfriend needs to make it clear to her that she must treat you with respect and she must have consequences if she does not do so. It is perfectly natural for her to want special alone time with her father. But he should make sure that he shows and tells her that you are also part of his "family" and he should plan things the three of you can do together. The main step here is that she respects you and talks nicely to you. There are sure to be barriers along the way, but if the two of you work together, you can have a good relationship with his daughter.
2007-01-20 15:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by ReeberKaseyMarcus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 19:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by nastasi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one crazy girl if you stay in this relationship any longer!!! This little girl is only going to get worse and at no fault of her own. Sorry but it is going to be a tough life for her when she realizes that the world in fact was NOT put here to revolve around her. What a shameful thing to teach a child. If you were to ever marry this guy, YOUR kids with him will more than likely hate her because she will be a monster towards them AND will also play games between them and her/their father. GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!! I am being serious. It will obviously be hard BUT you need to do it before you get more involved and married.
You honestly shouldn't have to "learn to deal with this". This is her parent's mess........... let them deal with it and learn to regret it.
Good luck!!
mb
2007-01-21 02:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do need to let your bf spend time with his child. That is most important. BUT he needs to make it clear to his daughter that you are very important to him as well. Since you have been a part of her life since birth, you have had a hand in raising her. (to an extent) She does need to respect you and it's up to your bf to make sure that happens.
2007-01-20 15:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to remember that this child is like all children, wants her parents together.
What you need to address is your BOYFRIEND'S attitude!! You need to have a very serious talk with him. You are part of HIS DAUGHTER'S life. You need to ask him if he wants you to continue to be part of both his & his daughter's life. (because YOU CAN'T continue to live like this). If so, some things need to change.
2007-01-24 08:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by ilovepoison2820 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be aware that the child is stuck in the middle.Open the lines of communication with your boyfriend about the daughter.Maybe you need family counselling.
2007-01-20 16:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it might be a stage.she might be feeling left out since she only gets to see her dad half the time so give her time and she will eventually stop telling her dad to play with her
2007-01-20 14:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by sillygoosetonda 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well stop spoiling her its obvioues or she will become a person whos a ****** prep and says im so perfect and i am gods gift
2007-01-20 16:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋