I sometimes have this feeling for one girl (I'm a guy) and I'd say I'm in love. But then, after a few months, I'd lose it and then I'll reflect, "Had I really been in love?" I would think then that I am only infatuating. Now I'm really really confused. I'm liking someone but I'm not sure if I'm in love or just merely infatuating because I can't tell the difference between the two.
2007-01-20 14:07:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Youre truely inlove when you see them through their best and worse. Your inlove when they look perfect to you whether they are dressed to the nines or wearig their old favorite sweatpants...and they still look just as good. You know youre inlove when you try everything you can just to make them happy, going out of your way to far exceed their expectations. Its like you want to take care of this person and be taken care of, kinda how you let yourself be real vunerable. But most of all, you trust in each other.
Infatuation is the lust and obsessiveness that first comes in a relationship. Usually it happens with every relationship in the beginning. Love takes time, so what youre probably feeling right now, is a little infatuation. That is not to say youre not falling inlove with her, however again, love takes time. The more time you spend with her will tell you your answer. If youre just only thinking lustfully after her, thats not being inlove. If its yearning for her and her friendship that comes along with it, then I say youre falling inlove. Isn't love confusing? The thing I love about Love, is that theres really no answer. Its all up to you. Think youre falling inlove with her?
2007-01-20 14:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now you are really enjoying the person you are with. It is okay to be in a state of infatuation for a while. Extreme fond feelings can develop into love. Love doesn't happen instantaneously that often. You will be able to tell the difference in time.
I am with the man I am going to be with for the rest of my life. When we first started dating I liked him A LOT. I knew I liked him more than any other guy I had been involved with, and he felt the same way. We weren't in love yet, but even those feelings of "like" were soooo different. Now we are in love and engaged to be married. I know so deep in my soul that he is the one for me it is almost unbelieveable. But I would do anything for him and he for me. He is the first person I want to talk to before I go to bed and the first person I want to speak to when I wake up.
You will realize your feelings as they come about. Also just because you stop liking or loving someone when the relationship ends doesn't mean you never did. I think there are levels. I have loved other people but certainly nothing comparing to this. It was not remotely the same.
2007-01-20 14:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some times you start out as friends and as you get to know each other and see how much you have in common with more than infatuation. You then can call it love. It may take a couple of months to figure it all out. But after that you will know if it is love you are in or is she just a friend.
2007-01-20 14:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to tell sometimes if it's love or just infatuation. I think you've answered your question in your question: time will tell. After a few months you tend to lose interest. It doesn't mean that you weren't in love, but you could be one of those people that are in love with the idea of being in love, and/or can easily fall in and out of love. If you want to know if you have the right person, all I can say is you will know.
2007-01-20 14:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by HG 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your only in love if you cant explain whats going on with your emotions and your heart. Trust me if your in love you will know for sure. Its an unmistakable draw to that person. Do you always think about her? Do you always want to be around her? Do you guys have good communication? Do you enjoy each others company? Are you in the middle of something and just out of no where you want to talk to her? If you answer yes to all those questions its probably love but if there was nos in there then its infatuation. Give it time and see where it goes.
2007-01-20 14:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me educate you a little lets call it love lessons. Love is a word that is very small but has a very huge meaning. When you love someone you want to be with that person forever and no time should you feel apart from her. Love could never change color and guess what infatuation can. Infatuation is something that disguises itself as love and tries to trick you into making silly mistakes. You should know and would know when the big bang happens. Love is something that makes an entrance and never exits that place in your heart for whom you love.
That my friend is the only way that you would know that you are in love...
2007-01-20 14:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love...
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.
For love, the physical attraction is only one aspect of the feelings you share.
Love teaches you to be patient and to plan your future with confidence.
Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection.
Love is when both partners are allowed to be themselves and feel at ease with the other.
Love involves honesty, respect and trust in each other.
Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened.
Love gives you strength and grows beyond you.
Love is mutual giving and receiving.
Love means a feeling of commitment to the other.
Love is when you are warmed by their presence, even when they are miles away from you.
Love has a balanced interest in other areas of life besides the relationship.
Love means both people can handle highs and lows in the relationship.
Love is when you both enjoy your time together.
Infatuation...
Infatuation is an instant desire which fades away with time.
Infatuation has an element of physical attraction. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.
Infatuation lacks confidence about yourself and your partner.
Infatuation is the feeling of getting married right away due to the fear of losing the partner.
Infatuation brings the feelings of jealousy and distrust.
Infatuation is having an idealized image of each other with wonderful pictures replaying in head.
Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity with a high level of losing the other.
Infatuation makes you impatient of the imperfection of the other.
Infatuation may bring violence into the relationship.
Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret.
Infatuation stimulates and you are thrilled but not really happy.
Infatuation makes you miserable when they are physically absent.
2007-01-20 14:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Besides the pheremones going crazy, when I'm in love I am happy in EVERYTHING that I do, even when I'm not with that person. Everything feels like it has a purpose. Infatuation is sort of painful. Being in love is really pleasant.
2007-01-20 14:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infatuation is like temporary love. If it comes and goes, it's probably infatuation. If it stays and get stronger, it's probably love.
2007-01-20 14:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by sarcastro1976 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE MEANING OF TRUE LOVE
Is sharing and caring,
Giving and forgiving,
Loving and being loved,
Walking hand in hand.
Talking heart to heart,
Laughing together,
Weeping together,
And always trusting and believing.
Plus thanking God for each other.
Love that is shared,
is a beautiful thing.
It enriches the soul and makes the heart sing
2007-01-20 14:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by ERIC G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋