I cant take it anymore! 1.) i can hardly talk to my bf becauz he is too much of a wimp to stand up to his little sister and tell her to get off the fone. 2.) All my parents care about is each other! And which means i always get yelled at! 3.) people always run there mouth about me at school. Saying i say crap about ppl i dont even know! 4.) No one understands me! They judge me by the way i act but they dont know why the way i acted! I have a horrible life!My family doesnt care, my dad calls me a ***** and he called me a whore before! Mu uncle his brother called me a whore! And the only reason they do is becauz my sister was one when she was my age! i am a virgin! So it cant be the way i act or it cant be the truth! PLZ help i cant handle it anymore!!
2007-01-20 14:02:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell them what you just told us and to give you the respect you deserve! They should be ashamed of themselves. There is no easy way out. Just stand up for yourself and if they don't change report them for abuse. Don't threaten to just let it be a surprise. Talk to your school counselor or some other trusted adult..Good Luck. Oh yes it is difficult to be called a whore when you are very much a virgin!
2007-01-20 14:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see. Firstly, walk away. Is there a family you can go live with to get away for a while, or maybe forever? Are you old enough to become an emancipated minor? Could you support yourself and continue school if you became emancipated? Find out what the emancipated minor rules are in your state. Your school counselor should be able to help with that.
You won't like this advice, but quit being a big jerk about your BF and the little sister/phone thing. If you were told you were going to die tomorrow, would the phone problem seem like such a big deal?
Once you're out of the impact zone, do like Troble # said and live your life to prove them wrong. You can't fix your parents, your siblings, your other relatives, or your boyfriend (or his little sister). You can only fix yourself. Don't make fixing them a requirement for fixing yourself.
Remember, it's trite but true -- the best revenge is living well. Start planning NOW. I've been where you are. Good luck!
2007-01-20 22:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Char 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without trying to hurt your feelings I have to be honest and tell you that you sound very immature about many things. First of all, why should your boyfriend tell your sister to get off the phone, why don't you? Secondly calling him a wimp doesn't show you have much respect for him or perhaps other people either.
You say nobody understands you, they judge u by the way you act but they don't know why you act that way...hard to comprehend...I think you are a very angry and confused little girl who needs to get some help to start liking yourself. I think you are not acting the best around people and your parents and that is why people run their mouth about you. For your Dad and Uncle to be calling you names like they do is not right at all. Can I ask you one thing? Why is it just males calling you that...not your Mom or Aunt?...do you think maybe you are doing something subconsciously that your not aware of?
Make an appointment to talk to a doctor, a councillor, a teacher, or an adult you trust and respect to get yourself some help to make yourself feel better.
I think you are very mixed up and you are looking for attention. The attention you need is guidance...please seek it! Good Luck Sweetie
2007-01-20 22:49:52 · answer #3 · answered by keeptrying4sure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, take a deep breath. I assume you are young possibly in High school?! Just know that everyone has their ups and downs and everyone has gone thru drama at school. Sit by yourself and think about what you want when it comes to your boyfriend. If you arent into him then leave him..dont settle! Give your parents a break..Im sure they dont mean to yell at you..put your self in their shoes. As for as school goes, what goes around comes around..these people that are talking about you will get bored and move on to someone else..Im sorry that your dad is calling you names that is terrible and NOONE deserves to be called names. I hope you realize that you obviously arent a whore..esp if you are a virgin. Keep your head up...things can only get better :)
2007-01-20 22:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let your family know that you are nothing like your sister. Let them know you and your sister are two different people. Ask your dad to sit down and listen to you. Talk it out with him and let him know you want no part of being the way your sister was at your age. As far as the kids at school, just ignore what they say. Also, it sounds like you may have a chip on your shoulder. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and prove to everyone that you are a good person.
2007-01-20 23:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes life brings us very undeserving things.
You are a strong, good person! You have more strength than you know. You and God really knows who you are. What else is more important?
Adversity can make us stronger.God knows your pain, just hang in an stay POSITIVE....
Hold on to only positive thoughts and try not to argue that only create a more negative outcome.
Hold yourself up in a positive light.
Find comfort in a calmer atmosphere. Start doing something a little different. I think visit churches or events and start trying different things that may open up new avenues for you. Expanding your world is what you need now and stay calm and know that you are a good loving person who has good things ahead for you.
God is always with you and you are loved........
2007-01-20 22:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath. It sounds like your life is hard and this isn't easy. Being a teen isn't easy. You need to talk to a school counselor or a trusted clergy member in your area about your feelings. Are you sure you can't talk to your mom about how you feel? Your parents probably have trust issues over your sister and it may be that they are taking that out on you, but you need to remind them that you are you and NOT your sister. Make sure you are doing everything that they need you to do to ensure their trust. If you really can't talk to them, how about writing them a note letting them know how you feel. It just might help. Parents sometimes forget how much pressure is on a young person. They may not realize how much they are hurting you.
2007-01-20 22:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by carolinagal75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. i hated my life too when i was a teenager. noone understood me and my family treated me like sh*t. it gets better, i promise. time goes by faster than you realize. i dropped out of school at 16( which i do NOT recommend) and i moved out when i was 18. it was hard and i lived in the smallest 1 room apartment i've ever seen, but omg it was so much better. i know this sounds terrible, but now( i'm 29 btw) i rarely talk to my family and that's just fine with me! good luck!
2007-01-20 22:11:21 · answer #8 · answered by renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres only one critic in the world that matters. Yourself. Evryone else just gives you ideas. Your chose on where to go with them.
2007-01-20 23:58:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bonjour, je m'appele joe, merci pour les deux points.
they really have talked to you in a most inappropriate manner. i'm shocked
2007-01-21 14:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by Troubled Joe(the ghost of) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋