My boyfriend and i got into an argument today ( one of many )
because he was acting like a child and wouldn't let his little brother watch his favorite tv show. I asked him why his brother was crying and he laughed and said because i won't let him watch his favorite show and i think its funny. I said that i thought he was being very immature and so i turned his brothers show on so that he could watch it. After that, my boyfriends started calling me a ***** and told me to stay out of his buisness. I walked away and said " forget this i'm not going to argue with you? " He walked over and spit in my face and as he was walking out the front door told me that he better not see my face when he gets home.
I love him and its so hard to spend even one night away from him. . . what should i do? I do have respect and dignity for myself and i know i shouldn't be treated like this.
2007-01-20 13:49:27 · 52 answers · asked by streetdestroyer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 18 years old and have been living with him for almost 2 years. Maybe i am afraid of being alone. . . .my selfesteem is low now.
2007-01-20 14:12:45 · update #1
If you really think that this is somekind of loving relationship then you have no idea what that means. If you are willing to put up with this then you will get more and more of this kind of crap. He not only does not respect you, but it sounds as if he has no respect for anyone else. He is a selfish bastard that needs to be dumped and left alone. If you really have the respect and dignity for yourself that you say you do then you will dump this guy in a heartbeat. It really does not matter if you find yourself alone for awhile it will be during that time you will have the opportunity to grow and learn what you want in a relationship.
2007-01-20 19:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by divingonthemuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you have to ask. Don't let him test any further how much you'll take from him, spitting in your face is a dirty disrespectful thing to do. I had a crazy relationship like that when i was 17-23. We hung on and were unhappy and arguing the whole 6 years. God, what a waste of all that time. We're happier now than ever, married to people we really do love and are compatible with. Yes, I did love him but there are different kinds of love and that one was immature and harmful. If you live together can you go back to your mom's or to friends place? I feel sorry for anyone who gets on that guys nerves, he sounds like jerk.
Remember, you'll get over leaving him in time, I promise.
2007-01-20 13:58:14 · answer #2 · answered by bigclaire 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right now you should be refering to him as your ex-boyfriend. He clearly has ZERO respect for you, and an aggresive action like that is only the beginning of the abuse he is capable of. I have seen types like him, and the best thing you can do is get out while you can. After spending about a month away you will look back on that relationship and wonder how you could have put up with it for so long. Don't accept any apologies he may offer you, just drop him and forget him, because guys like that aren't worth a second glance.
2007-01-20 13:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by Dangermouse 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you know all that stuff then why are you even asking this question? To spit on you is not just disrespectful but disgusting. Then he's disrespecting you by telling you all that garbage what the heck? No. Leave him. He doesn't respect you, and it'll only get worse sweetie. Not better. Make sure with your next mate, you don't give your heart to just anybody. Especially some jerk who doesn't deserve to eat a bucket of your spit. Good luck sweetie and if you ever need to talk I'm hear.
2007-01-20 14:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey Sweetheart, you should never use the term "boyfriend" and "spit in my face" in the same sentence. If he did that, he's not worthy of being your boyfriend or even being called a boyfriend. How can you honestly say that you love this guy? What don't you like about yourself that you think you have to put up with that kind of abuse? If you stay with this guy, (I'm sorry) but you're a complete and total idiot. I say this not to be mean but to let you know the truth.
2007-01-20 13:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
But you should stick your nose into his business?
No, he shouldn't have spit in your face. But you shouldn't have changed the channel, either. The most you should have done is voice your opinion to him of how he was handling his brother. If you're not going to extend him respect and dignity, then why do you expect to receive it from him? Why is it okay for you to cross over the line?
2007-01-20 13:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You love him?
honey - spitting in someone's face is called assault. You need to re-think your relationship and dump this guy pronto. Then you need to book yourself some serious councelling and learn how to build your self esteem enough so that you can find a partner who will treat you with the respect you deserve.
Please do this NOW - before your so called boy friend hits you or worse.
2007-01-20 13:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This that i am about to tell u hapens to a lot of women and it is hard for them to get out of it . When their husbands or boyfriends beat and hit them. It may sound stupid now and u may be saying "how dreamatic he only spit on my face he didnt hit me" but that's how it starts and it is horrible ... but I'just telling you so u keep this in mind .. u have to decide ... oh and i also noticed that u fight a lot .. thats not good if u start fighting for a stupid thing like that imagine what it would be like later ...
Hope this helps
2007-01-20 14:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by Dolphin_23 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Leave him... if you argue and fight all the time. Its not worth it, you can do better. You shouldnt waste your time with a man you dont get along with and cant imagine sharing your life or maybe having kids with him. If you do love him that much, then yes it is possible to get past all this and learn to have a civilized relationship. But it's a two lane road he has to work on it too! Good luck! :)
2007-01-20 13:53:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear that it happens to others... My husband did that to me after one year of marriage... I was wondering what was his problem since he has been such a gentleman until this happened... I started spyin on him and I found It out that he was going to nightclubs every other night, spending his money and time on hores... what
s funny is that one time I actually caught him in the parking lot walking out from the club and he pretended that I wasn't even there.... and that I was crazy acusing him...After couple of years we got divorced... he was very disrespectful w/ me...
2007-01-20 13:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋