my friend is having an issue with not being able to do what she loves most because her parents are concerned. She was hurt a while ago, and she is worried about speaking up to her parents about not being able to pursue her passion. She has a great relationship with them, but they have moments where they sort of hate to be argued with, and she sort of takes their word as is. But now, this is something bigger. I've never seen her this anxious before about talking with her mom and dad. we both know it CAN turn into a huge argument, and are trying to figure out a way for her to talk to them and have them REALLY listen.
2007-01-20 13:44:30 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It would help if u came to the point and gave more details! We dont know who u are!! in general though, since she has cool parents and they have always gotten on well and had an honest open relationship with them, i think they would jump on any situation that threatens the r'ship they have with their daughter? so i would sugest that she sits down with one or both of them and starts the conversation with Mum,dad, i love the relationship i have with you and i value your advice and oppions so much you know that dont you? I feel that what we have is being threatened with this situation, and i think it would be good for us if we discussed it with you. as a mother i would be all ears and do my damdest to resolve it so we are both happy,lest it comes beetween us !!! Hope this helps your friend, and good on you for being a great friend!
2007-01-20 13:58:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this all depends on how old your friend is. if she is like 13 or something then her parents final word is it and she needs to accept that. her parents are only trying to protect her. but if she is 15 or 16 or something then it would depend on what she wants to do and she was hurt a while ago. if it was a physical injury and she is wanting to something physical like sky diving or repelling or rock climbing, etc. then she needs to listen to her parents. but if the situation is not that extreme then what needs to be done is she needs to tell them that she needs to talk. when they sit down for the talk she needs to express to them that although she is their little girl, that she is growing up and becoming more mature and needs to be able to make some decisions on her own. she needs to be well prepared for this discussion and she needs an honest list of pros and cons. pros being the good points and cons being that bad points of what she wants to do. and she needs to be honest about the cons. she also needs to make a list of the things that might be harmful to her and how she can adjust to those. she needs to make sure that her parents see her as a maturing young lady that is thinking of the present and the long term and not just about what she wants to do. this might sway her parents, but then again it might not and still if her parents say no, then she needs to repect that and move on to find something else she would like to do that they will approve. at least until she is old enough that she doesn't need her parents permission. hope this helps. take care and God Bless.
2007-01-20 14:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She should sit down and do it in a forum of they are not allowed to talk until she has a chance to say everything that she wants to say. She can tell them that they can discuss it like adults, no yelling and only rational opinions can be expressed...we all know how parents get occationally. They might be proud of the fact that she is fighting or expressing her opinion in wanting to do whatever it is that is want to do.
2007-01-20 14:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Sandra C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant help unless u give more details.But the longer she hides it the harder it will be. Write them a letter.
2007-01-20 16:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋