I have a very intelligent 3 year old boy. I occasionally get annoyed when he continuously asks the same question. And he says 'what' a lot. If Ive had a stressful day, or if there is something else bothering me, I tend to be less patient with him. And if I get annoyed at him, I feel really awful. What is the best way to stay calm, and patient with him, instead of getting cranky and speaking badly to him. (he's only 3)..
2007-01-20 13:18:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
If you are feeling stressed:
1. Leave the room or go outside for a few minutes till you are feeling in control of your emotions.
2. Count until you feel better. Usually you only need to count to ten.
3.Sometimes I would make out I would have to go to the toilet and I would take a book or magazine and just sit there reading 1-2 pages to relax me.
As for answering questions my child had been diagnosed with high intellect so I was told to answer him truthfully even if it was repetitive, or if you can get him a book that might have pics to help with answers.eg: what are dinosaurs? Get him a book on dinosaurs. Sometimes I would say I don't know why don't you ask daddy or Nana & that would get them distracted for awhile.
Don't feel bad for getting annoyed with him it's part of parenting.
PS. 1 of my friends would tell her son that she couldn't answer his questions because her head needed a rest & he could ask them later?
2007-01-22 00:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by Vera K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem myself. however, i now have four children and with the birth of each new child i have found my patience becoming more attuned to being a father. patience can be difficult when a child is misbehaving or asking a lot of questions or a dozen other ways. the logic i use to explain the patience i have now is simple, they are the world. THEY ARE THE WORLD. once you become a parent, all things in your life must somehow revolve around them. they have no other to turn to. you are their everything and it would be completely wrong to be anything less to them. your son needs you. like no one has ever needed another ... he needs YOU. YOU are his world. the only world he knows. remind yourself everyday that this precious gift was given to you and you are to appreciate what you have. others are not so lucky. others have been blessed many times over and have neglected their blessings. we all have patience, there are just some limits to each of us. find your limits and do what you must to expand them. a little at a time if you must, but continue to expanded your limits. Patience truly is a virtue. you have it within you to expand your virtues. YOU are his world and HE must be YOUR world. let all other things revolve around the two of you.
2007-01-20 21:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Average Joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him direct and complex answers that he will understand. Not answers that will allow him to ask what or why. As far as the stress you're feeling, sometimes it's best to give yourself a break for even 2-5 minutes, calm down, clear your head of what's bothering you and them talk to your son.
I work in a daycare center with appreoximately 12-20 kids all day. I have found that just those few minutes to myself really help!
2007-01-20 23:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep breaths work. I know he's only 3 and needs to be watched quite a bit but just go in another room and think about what else is upsetting you. That will help take your mind off the child and comfront what you are really upset about.
2007-01-20 21:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by steelhead3686 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is tooooo easy.... Just say a little prayer and ask GOD to help you have patience with your child. It really really works. My 2 year old was literally climbing the a rock wall and was in to everything that day... I had done all that I knew to do. I simply went down on my knees and asked GOD to help me. I think sometimes people think that GOD only answers BIG prayers, but He helps us with everyday life as well. If you believe that he can and wants to help you, He will. Honestly. Just be sure to thank Him when he does! Just try it before you completely rule it out! Isn't it worth a try.... what will it hurt!
2007-01-20 23:44:37 · answer #5 · answered by ru.barbie2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop and stand still , get yourself still and take some deep breaths and count to 10 slowely , beleave me I had 6 kids and it works .2 in diapers and 1 training at the same time , not counting grandchildren at the same time . It works .
2007-01-20 21:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by janice a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count to ten. :)
change the subject with him, and ask him questions instead.
A really good one is to 'pretend he is not your child' when your loosing your patience. (I mean this in a good way, you probably wouldnt loose your temper at a friends/strangers child who did the same thing) then react.
wait until your intelligent 3 year old gets to 5 years old and tries to TELL YOU things, instead of ask. (as my mine does lol)
Good luck
2007-01-20 23:20:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom once told me that when I was little and she got annoyed with me that she would walk outside or in the bathroom and close her eyes and slowly count to ten...I'm 18 now and I do it sometimes too when something is really getting on my nerves and it definitely helps to calm you down
2007-01-20 21:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by Nicky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think annoying yourself is the answer.
at home, cook or do something so complicated that you know it will take you more than one try. try yourself that way.
as for the boy, just understand that getting explosive with him is not the answer and will get you the exact opposite result you want. just be patient with him. he's at an age where he's really curious and you don't want to squash that curiosity. harbor it, and try to divert his attention elsewhere.
2007-01-20 21:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by nickname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey try having an austic child whos 3 who obsseses but cannot speak in sentences, and repeats donkey 500 times ( shrek ) cause he wants to watch it. LOL honey I just think hes only this age once =) Sometimes I leave the room
2007-01-20 21:21:18 · answer #10 · answered by BoTToms UP 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋