i used to go out with this guy, and he really really liked me but hes known as a loser, even though i didnt think so, and he started to annoy me just a little bit, but since everyone thought he was such a loser i broke up with him. after i regretted my decision for a while because i never really gave him a chance, but i got over it. now hes told my friend he wants to try again, and hes really nice and all, but i cant help to think if its just because he wants a girlfriend, and not me, per say. help??
2007-01-20 13:08:30 · 29 answers · asked by Danityxkanexluvah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its u he wants give him another chance and treat him better.
2007-01-20 13:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really need to determine if he just wants a girlfriend or you. Don't break his heart again if your not sure. Maybe he just needs a friend. Don't be afraid to confide in him with how you feel. An apology is in order for being more concerned about what everyone else thinks about him instead of being led by your heart.
If you can be friends, and have fun together, and really like being around him no matter what any one else says about him, that's really cool. But if he really is a looser and you just feel sorry for him be honest with yourself about that. The heart is deceitful above all things. Take time to search deep in yourself for the reasons why you think you need to have him back. If it's true love, you'll know.
Love can be very forgiving and may even outweigh the possible fact that the guy is a looser.
I'm really curious how this turn out for you, let me know.
2007-01-20 21:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by wernerslave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what the people around you parents, friends, ect. consider a loser. If there are allot of people telling you this, there might be merit behind it does he do drugs, a liar, a thief, why do they call him a "loser"? You should probably take a good hard look at that. You say he is really nice, and you say you never gave him a chance, maybe that chance is all he really needs. Don't let life opportunities pass you bye.
2007-01-20 21:16:52 · answer #3 · answered by gnarlyhonda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't already in college I PROMISE you that you will find someone better in college. It might not be exactly what you wantn to hear but its the truth. If he is a loser he probably won't go to college..... and if he just wants you because you are just there ... why go out with him.? ask yourself these questions.. could you see yourself with him the rest of your life?? Do you love him? do you really like him? Why did you break up with him before, is it possible that it could happen again? Nobody can truley tell you what to do ... this is your own decision. But he will probaly get annoying again, and if he is a loser thats alright.... as LONG as you love him if you don't love him then he is just a user.. just face it. So .... find someone else. There are a lot of guys out there.
2007-01-20 21:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by LIZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. He's your ex for a reason. Don't forget that. Sure, it would be nice for a day or two, but be honest with yourself, how sure are you that the behavior that caused you to end the relationship won't return?
And if you can't date a guy without wondering what everyone else thinks about him, you need to stay single for a while and think about what you really want. It's horribly shallow to date or dump someone just based on what other people think.
2007-01-20 21:15:16 · answer #5 · answered by Artemiseos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the guy a chance, and stop listening to everybody that thinks he is a loser. Make your own decisions based on how you really feel.
2007-01-20 21:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by ytuhfire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up with some one because other people think he's a loser is pretty shallow. You have to ask yourself if you really like him or not. No reason to be his girlfriend because you feel bad about breaking up. It needs to be because you want to be his girlfriend.
2007-01-20 21:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by gold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u never gave him a chance u can't be a hundred percent sure if his feelings sure true...he probably wants a second chance to show what a great boyfriend he can be....as the quote goes "u can't judge a book by its cover"....give him a try n see what he has to offer.....don't worry what other people might think because if u live life like that u won't get anything in life.
2007-01-20 21:13:30 · answer #8 · answered by lalgita12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should sit down and talk with him over a cup of coffee or something before you make any decisions. You could talk about each of your expectations, goals, what you might do differently, etc, and see where to go from there based on the answers.
2007-01-20 21:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by dmc81076 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you really want him, after all you got over him once. I think you just want a boyfriend dear and he is the only one that seems interested in you. That is the wrong way to go about it. You said nothing about you actually liking him or having feelings for him. Think about it, do you have feeings for him? Is he worth it?
2007-01-20 21:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by saau2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont just not like him b/c hes known as a loser.
give him another chance.
2007-01-20 21:13:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋