There's this girl that I work with, she's very outgoing and has predominately guy friends. I know she flirts with me but since she has so many guy friends and is outgoing with all of them I don't know if the blatent flirting supercedes the prospect of her just being herself... (ie. she calls me "love" playfully in person and over the internet, she grabs my muscles and compliments them and everytime we leave work or say goodbye she hugs me)... now I don't see her doing that with other guys but again, I'm worried that I'm taking her comfort lvl with me incorrectly and attributing it to her liking me more than one, unfortunately I do work with her and dont want to make things awkward at work,basically I dont wanna look like a fool. my main issue is that she doesnt jump at hanging out with me or ask me to hang out all the time, ive asked a few times. and shes said yes, a few times,if she liked me as much as she shows when we talk youd think shed jump at seeing me and talking to me.inputplz
2007-01-20 13:01:34 · 15 answers · asked by dude 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Someone plz reassure me that I'm not crazy when I think that despite her lack of diehard motivation to hangout with me all the time I should probably think she likes me...She tells me how she admires my intelligence and motivation to succeed and calls me "handsome," plus, isn't any form of contact supposed to be the key subtilty to a girl showing shy affection???
2007-01-20 13:02:05 · update #1
Also, to provide further insight to the situation...Someone that I work with told me that a few months ago she confided in him, telling him that she liked me but thought I wasn't interested. She got a boyfriend, we continued being friends wiht me being oblivious to her previous feelings and somehow word that our co-worker told me she liked me she tried to half-brush it under the rug...(which im confidant was only a way to save embarassment) My best explanation for why she flirts with me but doesn't jump at hanging out with me is that she used to like me, got over it (went out with another guy and has since dumped him) and her idea of dating me has been paralyzed b/c she doesnt think im interested..... I feel that shes sunk so deep into a "friendship" pysche b/c of "rejection" by me that shes blinded by it, which would explain her open flirtation but not-thinking about dating me...thoughts, sry for the overwhelming amount of text-
2007-01-20 13:02:20 · update #2
I think you should show her you like her too without words, just actions, ask her out on Valentines day, and give her something inexpensive, but yet thoughtful, I am sure that she will eventually get out of the "just a friendship" mode :) good luck
2007-01-20 13:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Stella d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you seem like a very likable guy! I would be a little confused also by all of the friendliness and flirting as well. Listen, ask her out for dinner, a zoo trip, something fun.... talk with her outside of work about anything but work. Have a mental list of questions to ask her... what is your favorite hobby? Do you have any pets? Are your parents still married? Anything to get her talking. Tell her funny stories about you. Casually touch her on her arm, compliment her and show her how perfect you are for her. When the "date" is over and you are home, go over things that you two talked about. Did she send you any signals of interest? Did you two have any prolonged eye contact? How did she respond to you complimenting her? Compile all of your information, then make a decision... Are you going to continue to be only friends? Was there a spark between you two? If there was, ask her out again and tell her how you feel....
2007-01-20 21:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by lucky_one_happy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is awfully long, so I stopped after the second paragraph.
My input: Perhaps she's just a very outgoing, personal, and flirty person. It's possible that she could be interested, but you have to think at the same time the effects of dating inside of the office. Personally, I think if you're really interested in pursuing her than you should "man-up" and ask her out.
2007-01-20 21:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by Y.a.S.L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's moderately obvious for many reasons that she likes you. I'd probably have the same concerns about her not jumping to hang out with you (not positive what you mean by "jumping," though). Overall though it seems like a pretty good bet, and if you're confident enough to ask her to hang out, the rest would come pretty easily, I'd think. Then again I'm afraid to talk to any girls, and when one talks to me it's an automatic unrequited crush for the next six weeks.
2007-01-20 21:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe instead of you asking everyone else maybe you should ask flat out. it is ok to talk to others but that does not help your situation any. ask her this "do you want to be more than friends?" "I ask because you act like you do when you are around me. I was in a relationship just like yours and I lost the chance to be with the girl because I waisted my time thinking and not acting upon my feelings for her. the worse that can happen is if get told no.better to ask and get an answer than to not ask at all. let me quote a philosipher named george macdonald: " to be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved."
2007-01-20 21:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by michaelv37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm very flirty too - but I only make physical contact with the one's I'm really into. The hugging and touching your muscles is a total sign. BUT...if you've only asked her to "hang out" and not to actually go on a date, she might be pulling back because she thinks YOU are not that into HER.
2007-01-20 21:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Jen H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ayyy...It's just lyk this relationship between me and this guy at skool, Steven. I lyk him, and I flirt with him, but he doznt show that he lykz me at all(from ur story he probably does)(YAY!!!). I got a boyfriend, but dumped him(because I lyked Steven 2 much). She lykz u, and sinse u havent made a move, she thinks ur not interested, so got a man 2 try and get over u, but couldn't because she lyked u 2 much so she dumped him. I also hang out with alot of guys, but I really lyk steven.
2007-01-20 21:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by Liza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out on a simple date - like dinner. It doesn't have to go anywhere if one of you decides it shouldn't, but I think you will know by the end of the night if it will lead any where.
2007-01-20 21:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by gold 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To my understanding I think she does like you.If I were you try and take thing slow and don't jump wright in.Try and ask a few question here and there but not bluntly.
2007-01-20 21:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really believe she likes you as a good friend/brother..she feels safe with you and comfortable and she knows you wouldnt try anything on with her..dont get involved with her if you work together..its a bad idea.
2007-01-20 21:05:31 · answer #10 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋