I had a friend, but she lied too me, what would ou do? it was pretty bad too.?

Question

I had a friend that i only knew for 6 months but we already became like bro and sis. I told her everything that has ever happened to me, and same with her, she told me everything, but i just recently found out that she actually hated me this whole time, and that the only reason she was my friend was b/c she knew i was friends with a guy that she liked, and she USED me to get to him, well now they are going out and i hate the both of them, is that wrong? and also everything she said for me to keep a secret was a lie, so for 1 year shes lived a lie, but what would you do, i just left her alone and warned her boyfriend that if he came near me i would make sure hed lose some teeth before were done talking, is that wrong of me?

I had a friend that i only knew for 6 months but we already became like bro and sis.I told her everything that has ever happened to me,and same with her,she told me everything,but i just recently found out that she actually hated me this whole time,and that the only reason she was my friend was b/c she knew i was friends with a guy that she liked,and she USED me to get to him,well now they are going out and i hate the both of them, is that wrong?and also everything she said for me to keep a secret was a lie,so for 1 year shes lived a lie, but what would you do,i just left her alone and warned her boyfriend that if he came near me i would make sure hed lose some teeth before were done talking,is that wrong of me?She also is sending me emails saying bad things,and her b/f threatens me sometimes,even though i dont do anything to them,but i could beat him down easily,but i dont, but they just dont stop. and now she threatens to tell everyone that i am abusing her,b/c ive told her to stop.

she also wont leave me alone, she keeps spreading rumors that im the bad guy, and once when i calmly tried to talk to her(I know i was calm b/c two of my other friends were with me) she walked off and told everyone that i had pushed her and hurt her, but only a handful of people believe me that i didnt. she can win her audience whenever she wants to, b/c she knows how to cry. but she keeps making things worse and im trying to keep my calm, and i have for a while, but ive left her alone, but she just wont stop, she stopped for a while once she heard what i said to her b/f, but who knows how long that will last.

Answer 1

Of course is wrong, and not Worth it, Why would you do something like that??? Try to cope with your anger different way.

Answer 2

Ok, relax and take a deep breath and breathe.

1. You were right to leave her alone.
2. You ok - not so nice way - told him to leave you alone.
Perhaps you were a bit strong in your reaction.
3. The best thing to do is act - not react to how others treat you, but sometimes it is so very hard to do. So I understand just how you felt in trying to say STOP - You were a jerk to treat me that way. So I prefer to leave you in my dust.

4. Now, forgive them. Do you realize that forgiveness is a gift to you. When you forgive them, you say that's enough, and I don't have to think about that any more.

The best revenge is to live a good life. Remove the toxic people from your life, and get good friends. Now you know what some people can do to you. It's a great lesson that lasts for a lifetime.

I have friends who have learned that after 27 years of marriage, and the husband cheated and left her stranded, another guy who after 19 years found his wife cheating with his boss!!!
So it never stops - our lessons anyway. I choose not to be like them. I can choose to drop people when they become ugly and abusive.

We all deserve to be in a Rocking Relationship. We deserve to have loving friends. We can choose to not be like those who are mean and abusive and throw stones at us.
Someday when I go to meet my Creator, I want my Creator to say Hi to my spirit - come and stay.

GOD bless us one and all, always.
MBA Boston University
CPA-retired

Answer 3

Move on and make new friends. Just be glad you found out about her now and not later. Sure it hurts, but don't let her be a reason or excuse for your anger. Just let it go. It's really not worth it. You need to be a good friend. Let her be who/what she is without you. You don't need friends like that.

Answer 4

I'm sorry this happened to you. That's not a nice thing your "friend" did. She shouldn't have used you like that. :(

However, violence is not the answer to everything. And making enemies is not good either. The only to way to fight fire is with water.

Leaving the matter alone is a good idea. You have learned your lesson and now you know that they have to be avoided. I'm not asking you to be great friends with them... coz they don't deserve your friendship. But neither should you do things like take revenge.

Just be a cool cucumber. But be wary of them. Fighting with brains is always sharper than fighting with brawns. ;)

Good luck!

Answer 5

Mental health

Yuh 95% of the the folks that you meet in your lifetime with screw ya, finding the last 5% is a -itch

Answer 6

Move on and chalk it up to experience. Be more careful with the next person. Don't tell someone everything about you.

Answer 7

i so hate people like this. They can get away with anything! im not sure what to tell u! i would say let it go but i know thats going to be hard to do.

Answer 8

The first four words of your opening sentence is your answer.
With friends like that, who needs enemies? You live, you learn.

Answer 9

just move on and tell her/him that you hate them :] haha it doesn't sound nice but that is what I would do. That is very mean. Using someone isn't goood at all. I would hate her/him SOOO much.

Answer 10

What does this have to do with health?