Wow, you all give some great answers. :) Here's my next question:
I try to be nice to all of my co-workers and not ina flirty, hang-all-over them type of way. If someone is pasing, I'll say "hi" and smile. Nothing over the top. But one guy who has been with us for a year said to me last week, "Hey, so....I heard you may need a new *$#& buddy. I'd love to fill that position".
Sure, he knows my ex....but I swear, I have never said anything but hello and really vague stuff to this guy (like, "have a good weekend"). I don't know where the sex comment came from. A friend was standing with me and her chin about hit the floor, along with mine. He grinned, blushed, and walked away.....my friend and I were in complete shock.
But, if I report it, at least I DO have a witness, right? Would you report it? To whom? The supervisor? I'm thinking this could probably fit under sexual harassment....but I'm not positive.
2007-01-20 12:47:37 · 13 answers · asked by BarbieGurl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is sexual harassment, and you should be reporting this person as soon as possible. You have obviously been made to feel uncomfortable, and this is completely unacceptable in the workplace.
Report the incident to your immediate supervisor, and keep insisting that you want a resolution to this. You do not want your good reputation ruined because this person is an immature jerk. If your immediate supervisor does not take care of the problem, you need to continue reporting the incident up the chain of command until the problem gets taken care of.
Best of luck, and use the fact that you had a witness to this incident to your full advantage. You may want to ask your friend that overheard and witnessed the incident to make a written statement to that effect.
2007-01-20 13:26:48 · answer #1 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be well within your rights to report it and having a witness would certainly improve your credibility. On the other hand, if you consider it might be an isolated or one time comment, would you want the guy to lose his job over it?
Maybe you and your witness could write up statements and put them in a sealed envelope and have a neutral third party hold on to them. Or maybe you could approach a supervisor and let them know but ask them not to do anything unless there are further comments.
Ideally, I think the best thing would be to confront the guy and ask/tell him to never make a comment like that again or you will report him for sexual harassment.
How to handle this situation isn't as clear cut as if you just over heard a dirty joke that offended you or if you had a co-worker use sex as a threat or bribe.
2007-01-20 13:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were right. Back when people never came to work and opened fire on their co-workers, this could have been looked at as a joke, describing some absurd scene that could never happen. But this has become, sadly, all too commonplace. No harmless person with any common sense would joke the way she did, in light of the fact that too many people have died like that. It's like going through security at the airport and joking that you have a bomb and are going to hijack or blow up the plane. That's not funny! You need help if you want to say things like that. And if she really felt that way, she REALLY needs help and will get it thanks to you. Don't ever feel bad about that. You may have prevented a tragedy.
2016-05-24 02:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
another story that just doesn't quite add up.
Believe it or not MOST guys don't make comments of that nature unless they have reason to believe that they are safe in doing so. I see your first recourse to every situation seems to be to invoke some sort of superior power by way of reporting to an authority figure. My guess is that this is the part you were looking for in the first place.
As far as a normal response to this- Go to the guy and tell him that you are a polite person and that you didn't intend to be flirtacious, and that the comment wasn't appreciated. And in the future you will expect respect from him as mandated BY LAW.
But that's how normal people would respond. I wouldn't expect that from melodramatic YOU.
2007-01-20 17:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by Meatball ;) sub 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It definitely does count as sexual harrassment. I would have a private meeting with whomever is your direct boss and report the situation to him/her. I would also tell the coworker in question (if it happens again) in clear terms "I don't appreciate comments like that."
2007-01-20 12:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by lucky g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay as far as harassment goes...any unwanted sexual advance is sexual harassment...this included!
Most employee handbooks have special people designated to handle harassment complaints, if not: go first to your direct supervisor, if they do not handle it...keep climbing the ladder until somebody does!
2007-01-20 12:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's definitely sexual harrassment. report it. report it to your supervisor, if that doesn't work, his supervisor. and if that doesn't work, keep going up the chain until someone makes the guy pay for his actions.
2007-01-20 12:52:42 · answer #7 · answered by AW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you never get your meat where you butter your bread! If he continues, report him because it IS sexual harassment and uncalled for in the workplace.
2007-01-20 12:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by ladyluc39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to handle it one on one with him first, tell him you felt it was inapproiate...give him fair warning, then if it happens again I would absolutely report it. It sounded like he was trying to impress and/or flirt with you in some twisted way, but not that it was threatening. Some guys just don't get it...
2007-01-20 13:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by chick33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Other women could think of it as a comliment...Anyway just speak to him...If you think that he is talking about you behind your back saying bad stuff about you, or he continues, then report it
2007-01-20 13:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by 24_m_gr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋