My "husband" of 19 years suffers with severe procrastination. I take care of everything in our relationship...paying the bills, grocery shopping, housework, laundry, appointments, letter writing, buying christmas gifts, handling family issues...everything. I have done this for 19 years and am honestly sick of it. I'm ready to bail.
I looked up chronic procrastination and found that many adults who suffer with this also have/have had ADD or ADHD. Many suffer with depression as well.
I do too much and I'm wearing out fast. I can't take care of anymore adult "children". Anyone out there with similar problems or who knows much about this?
2007-01-20 12:15:31 · 7 answers · asked by em 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You are ready to bail. Have you talked to your husband about this.
Remember that you have to look after yourself first before you can look after anyone else.
Does your husband at least work bring home the income for the family.If he doesn't then I don't blame you for Bailing. Have you tried couples counseling.
You don't say whether you work as well. May be he looks upon his job as bringing home the income and yours as looking after the house. If this is the case and you want a change tell him.
2007-01-20 12:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by peter w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chronic procrastination has been tied to depression. Your husband suffers from a mental condition.
You either have to:
A. Bail out, leave him to deal with his problems on his own.
B. Help him with a kind and loving heart.
Anything in between is a diservice to everyone involved.
To help him, get him some professional help. It's a long road beginning with baby steps. For every little bit of progress he makes, the more self-dignity he will gain. He can become a better person, but if the family around him offers no encouragement, changes to assist him or acknowledgment of progress, the chances of progress will remain low.
So, to speed up the process either way, make a decision and stick with it.
2007-01-20 12:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Em,
I don't know anything about this first hand, but it sounds like a drag. Have you tried counseling? I understand why you're tired. Sounds like you have all of the responsibility in the relationship. Give him a list of specific tasks that HE must handle on a weekly or monthly basis. If he can not handle it, you have choices. You can either live with it like you've been doing or you can live a happier life before it's too late. Try to work it out before doing anything drastic, but take care of your emotional well-being at all times. Good luck to you. Remember, life is short and it's exactly what you make of it.
2007-01-20 12:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by JOURNEY 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Procrastination is pervasive, and it concerns us. At least 95% of us procrastinate at least occasionally and about 15-20% of us do it consistently and problematically. Also, there are historical records of people procrastinating going back at least 3,000 years. Unfortunately, very little is understood about why we put off doing until later what we think we should actually be doing right now.
2007-01-20 12:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by wholenote4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wonderful question, and I have the same problem too with my husband. I am sorry that I do not have any answer to your question. We tried family counseling, and everything nothing seems ot work... I am also equally sick and tired.
2007-01-20 12:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by SP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clinical depression such as yours need specialized treatment. You need to see your GP and get some treatment for your condition. It won't fix itself and no one on here can really help you to any significant degree.
2016-05-24 02:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ya later
2007-01-20 12:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by XL HaHa 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋