They are extra ordinary active. Never want to eat but running here and there, fighting, throwing and destroying things at home and outside as well. Elder one do not want to read his school books. They are weak due to less intake. Though they like to eat outside things like french fries etc. But home made never want to touch. Do not want to take milk. We are vegitaraion so do not take egg, meat, fish, hum etc.
Elder one like TV watch but younger one never and switch off TV if anybody wants to enjoy tv. Due to all this mother beat them almost everyday. Thay calm for a moment but forgot very soon and start again as usual.
In case we go friend home or some body comes at our home the same there is no change in behavier.
2007-01-20 12:11:13 · 7 answers · asked by Kumar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are saying that you have two boys that are hard to handle and they do not behave even when they get spanked? My daughter has the same problem with her two sons,Switching people I am the daughter my mom was talking about. She showed me this question because I have the same problem with my 2 boys. The only difference is mine are 4yrs old and 1 yr old. I have learned that spanking or screaming does not make matters any better it only makes matters worst. You might want to talk to your doctor and ask him if your kids can be checked for the hyperactive syndrome. I asked my doctor because my oldest son is terrible and he printed out some copies for me about adhd and other problems that come with it. Turns out my son is displaying signs of "opposite defiance disorder" which means no matter how hard you try punishing him he will always do the opposite. You say no he will say yes. So my best suggestion for you would be to ask your doctor about it and let him know about the things your son does. If the doctor suggests that your son might be the same as mine it is more than likely he will need medication for the problem. My youngest is still to small to determine if he is like his older brother but your youngest isn't so you can ask the doctor about your youngest as well. They will explain everything to you just like my doctor explained it to me. try to be as patient as you can with them and best of luck with that.
2007-01-20 12:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, start with taking control. Normally, you can't help your kids til you help yourself. You are the adult and as hard as it is, you need to act like one. Give them a naughty step or corner to sit on for 7, or 3 min. (their Age). Kids act up due to lack of attention, give them each special attention to just hang with you and talk. If they can open up to you then things aren't as bad as they seem. Rather than physical punishment, stoop to there level. Make them realize that the things they do are priveledges not rights. Hope I helped!!! Good Luck!!!
2007-01-20 21:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by dancinjeri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well they need disapline. Can't let them walk all over you. Take charge or something. Punish them but also love them. Take them places for when they do good like grades. And give them allowence for doing chores around the house. Becuase people deserve to be rewarded for accomplishments or minding there parents. If you punish them send them to there room and don't let them do anything but sit in that bed. Trust me send them in there for a few hours every time they don't mind. It will work. Or spank them if it gets too out of control.
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2007-01-20 20:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by RED VIPER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beating children never teaches them a thing. I know, I'm 41 years old now, I grew up with people who spanked and use to believe in it myself, now I only use it as a very last option, so it seldom occurs at all. When I say seldom, I mean seldom and when truly all else has failed; like I have gone as long as a year without having to spank.
If you don't have your children respecting you and your position of authority in the home by the time they are around 8, they never will and by that age, spanking even if only used when all else has failed, it seldom works after about age 8 or 9. I'm talking here about one spank on a clothed butt with the hand, not beating the child until you beat them into submission. You are trying to shock them as a last resort into seeing you are serious, not to cause them pain. If you are leaving a red mark on them, you are spanking in a rage.
We teach our children how to act, buy what we allow in our home from day one. Your seven year old is going to fight you every step you make to change the rules and function of the family now. Kids do not end up with this type of behavior when there has always been basic rules which were always enforced. I have many friends like you and they never had good basic rules in their homes and the few who had rules, didn't enforce them immediately, daily, even when they were exhausted and didn't want to. They'd sit there and beg the kids to obey, so the kids learned they could push the limites and push them and push them.
You really have to start over, with a few basic rules and stick to them. Have a good time out place you put them in and they'll fight this as well. Now that they are older, it's their wills against your will and they are going to do everything they can to win the war of wills. If you hit and scream to get them to obey, all they learn is hitting is okay and they'll be screaming at you for the rest of your life.
Start with the basic's and have rules you inforce.
First one would be no one hits. You hit for any reason you are in time out. They'll fight this until they see you will keep taking them back to time out all day long if necessary. YOU HAVE GOT TO STAY CALM and just keep doing it. Start with one rule at a time, then as you get them to obey, you impliment another. You make sure that you tell them the rule and when it will begin. Best to tell them in the morning and say it begins today, right now. Once hitting and running around uncontrolled is allowed, it will take about two weeks of being very consistant to get this behavior stopped. Time out should never be longer then the child is old. A three year old get's three minutes, a seven year old seven minutes. If you make it longer then their attention span is, they don't learn from it.
Sadly you, your spouse and your two children have a lot to learn together, kids are always going to do what they have been allowed to do and they are going to fight change with everything in them.
GOOD LUCK, it's going to take time and consistancy and a lot of endurance without violence to change this situation in your home.
2007-01-20 20:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mountain Bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SUPER NANNY!!!!!! either watch her show on ABC or write to her and let her know this. her tips really help. good luck.
2007-01-20 20:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by SoCal Paramedic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time for the rubber hose
2007-01-20 20:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait are these your kids or your girlfriend/wife's kids?
2007-01-20 20:14:59 · answer #7 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋