I'm e-mailing a guy that I met when he was in town visiting. We went on a few dates, got kind on intimate, then he left and I didn't hear a thing. I found out he thought I was too quiet so I've been making an effort to e-mail him and ask him questions about himself while revealing info about me. He advised that he has never met anyone as quiet as me before, and he knows I am a good woman, but he's trying to get over his ex, and we should stay in touch. I send him long e-mails and he responds with very short answers and does nothing to keep the conversation going. I know that I can be very quiet and I don't want to feel like this isn't going to work out because of that--I want to put in the effort. I know that sometimes women do have to go after what they want...sometimes a woman has to persue a man (as uncomfortable as it feels). But I feel like if I never sent him another e-mail I'd never hear from him again. Is it time to accept that he's just not into me?
2007-01-20 12:03:25 · 7 answers · asked by bluebutterfly081 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do you know if you are doing too much or not enough? In the ideal world I would like a man to pursue me but that just isn't happening. Should I have to work this hard to prove myself a worthy catch or is this all part of the "putting yourself out there" thing?
2007-01-20 12:05:55 · update #1
Just talk to him and be yourself.
good Luck
2007-01-20 12:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off a little bit, email and ask him how he's doing but don't push. This probably isn't a good time for him and certainly isn't a good time for you to be pushing for a relationship with him. Go out, do other things, if it was meant to be then the two of you will eventually get together, when it's right for both of you.
2007-01-20 12:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you looking to this guy for acceptance?
Stop it! you are who you are! and if he does not like that then he is NOT worthy of YOU!
You obviously weren't to quiet for him when it came time to get intimate. He sounds like a jerk.
A woman should NEVER have to chase after any man.
When I guy digs you, you will have no doubts!
2007-01-20 12:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get another job. You dont need the pressure from your boss. Look for another job asap and if you love your boyfriend dont even consider doing anything to hurt him. Also why would you hurt your bf?
2007-01-20 12:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by brp_13 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not lost but if he is still gettin over an ex then ur prolly a booty call bc he has to have his..how can i say...freee time n greiving time n i want her back time then move on time
2007-01-20 12:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds as if your trying to hard, back off and see what happens, if he doesnt try then its time to move on.
2007-01-20 12:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. You'll be what's known as "the rebound". Run away.......
2007-01-20 12:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋