I seem to always fall deeply in love with girls i date but they usually end the relationship anyways. How can i stop myself from doing this? I think its called limerence. I really just want a girl to love me like i love her and basicly just want somebody to love. very much. This recently just happened to a girl i didnt date and she doesnt even like me but i fell in love with her very fast. Please help =(
2007-01-20 12:02:18 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-20 12:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by monetspicasso 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When meeting new girls for the first time, go in with no expectations, think of her as a friend from work or something. Make a list of the main qualities in a girl that u like other than she should love u as u love her. this way if the new girl is missing a few of those physical or personality traits u wont fall in love so quick but it will make it easier to be friends first and if that works then ur relationship will grow to more than friends. U may come off strong if u fall in love that quick and scare her away. I was lonely for a while and had that same problem so i know the feeling but deff stick to ur standards and dont drive urself insane over it. GOOD LUCK
2007-01-20 12:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Angelina A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are searching too hard. Every time a girl come along, you think you're in love. Love is a strange being. We think it's love, but in the end, it's just heartache wearing a disguise. So the next time you feel like you "love" someone, just ask yourself...would you spend the rest of your life with this person...would you lay down your life for them? Because, if you ask me, there is nothing you wouldn't do for the person you love.
2007-01-20 12:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by khartman492000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should not be dating right now if that is the case you need to think about things like that. yeah i fall in love with people i go out with to that is the point but however if this is happening that is why the girls are leaving girls are afraid of love so soon so just dont let them know you feel that way start hiding those things nad soon you wont fall in love with them as fast tell the mind other things and it will start to believe these things
2007-01-20 12:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is so sweet. You will find someone one day to love you back.....PROMISE Just stay in check with your emotions though. You don't want to go through that torn out heart thing every time you turn around. Don't rush to make her your #1 focus at first. Still enjoy your other interests until YOU feel comfortable to offer her more of you.
2007-01-20 12:08:06 · answer #5 · answered by sweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you truly understand what love is, and what being "In Love" is you will know and come to understand your feelings. Being "In Love" with someone is not just developing a great admiration, or a deep caring for them. You can have these feelings for a DOG, your sister, or an orphan. Love is a spiritual, emotional, and sexual sharing of LIFE with another human. If the other person is not feeling the same, then you are not sharing,,,, you are just infatuated with them. When the feeling is returned, you will know, and then it will be clear. Until then, go out for the sake of having fun,,, not for the sake of looking for love. Good Luck.
2007-01-20 12:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separate your feelings, with reality. You don't fall in love. You're just not wanting to be alone. Love ain't in it. at all. Don't go out with someone. Just cause they're single. Only go out with someone that makes your Heart feel happy. Listen very closely. It won't let you down. Don't think with your head. (Either one) Listen to your Heart. It's wanting to stop all of the anguish
2007-01-20 12:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This answer is with heart. . . not shared out of 'meanness'.
My answer to your question would be . . .
Increase your self worth and self value.
Get to know the girl's heart. . . not simply that she is fun to be around.
Sounds to me like you are 'falling in love' with the idea of love and not a person.
I wish you well on your 'journey' of self discovery. It's not always a pleasant journey. . . yet it IS a very valuing one.
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2007-01-20 12:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you have some issues from your parents. You need to take a look deep inside yourself. Try and separate the sex from love. Just because you have sex does not mean it's love. A lot of girls have this prob too.
2007-01-20 12:06:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn what love is and you will find that you can not fall quickly with every girl you meet.
Good Luck
2007-01-20 12:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just be extremely careful about who you date. That'll help stop you from getting hurt. It's hard to stay single, but do so for as long as it takes to find someone that loves you just as much.
2007-01-20 12:06:16 · answer #11 · answered by Star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋