I was a virgin til i met my fiance and a few weeks after our engagement we finally had sex. It was very painful, i bled, and was sore for a few days. I even went to my gyno to prove to him. He still doesnt want to believe me. I dont know what to say. He doesnt care weather or not i am a virgin cuz he loves me either way i just dont understand why hes being so idiotic! Anyone get this??
2007-01-20 11:27:20 · 14 answers · asked by Angelina A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Apparently it's not important to him. If he loves you anyway why make an issue of it? You're not a virgin anymore...get busy enjoying life and stop worrying about things that don't really matter.
2007-01-20 11:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a virgin before I met my fiance but it took him a while to believe me, too.
His reasoning?
The first time we had sex, I didn't bleed.
In the past, it's possible your hymen, A.K.A. "cherry" was popped by the use of a tampon, by riding a bike or by fooling around with guys (allowing them to finger you.)
When I was in middle school I attended a birthday party at a hotel with a pool. When I climbed onto the ladder to get out of the pool, I slipped and hit my vagina off the step. It sounds crazy but it was the worst pain I experienced in my entire life and there was even a little blood.
After explaining this to my boyfriend, he laughed and considered the possibility that the swimming pool ladder popped my cherry.
It's comical but true.
Just explain to your fiance that girls hymens can break through certain activities, most of which aren't even sexual.
Good luck, if he doesn't believe you, maybe he's just being playfully argumentative and deep down inside, he knows he was your first.
2007-01-20 11:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by Desiree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married an idiot. From what you said it's pretty obvious he broke your hymen so unless you had it surgically reattached, you were a virgin.
I don't really understand why anyone wants to be a virgin until marriage as look at the disaster it has turned out with your marriage already. Not a great start.
2007-01-20 11:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is the Main Cause of Bondage
Sex attraction is the beginning of the illusion summarized in the phrase aham mameti: "I am my body, and everything in relationship with my body is mine." A man searches after a woman, and a woman searches after a man, and when they unite for sex the material illusion becomes very strong. This is nature's arrangement for keeping the conditioned soul under her stringent laws.
The whole material world is based on the attraction between male and female. This principle is working not only in human society, but among the birds, beasts, aquatics, insects- everywhere. You will find that as soon as a male dog sees a female dog, the male immediately begins canvassing: "Please come, let us unite."
Therefore, in human society one has to understand by Vedic knowledge, by education, that we are bound up within this material world due to sex attraction. Unless one inquires into the Absolute Truth, a human being is no better than an animal.
Questions? Email me at The_Holy_Name@yahoo.com
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2007-01-20 11:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess guys just are not use to this kind of thing.When I met my husband 15 years ago we went out on are first date he was making the moves on me and I told him I'm not like this and was serious.And he sarcastically said me either.Later months later we talk about it and he said he didn't believe me, but after getting to know me better he knew it was true.I guess he was just being apprehensive and didn't want to be played for a sucker.Deep down I think he does believe you but now he can't admit it because it's a man thing.LOLOL
2007-01-20 11:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? It is common knowledge that most people are in highschool when they lose their virginity. It is his issue that he doesnt believe you. You have tried to convince him, just let the issue drop. Congrats and Good luck!
2007-01-20 11:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by Questionqueen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably thought you weren't a virgin b/c usually people don't wait until their married, the reason why he doesn't believe you is because maybe it doesn't it occur to him that you actually did wait he probably thinks people don't wait and he is wrong b/c i know a lot of people who are waiting---- but you care b/c it was something special for to wait and he really doesn't understand that
2007-01-20 11:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by Kayla 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt care then y do u? u know its true so thats all that matters! get over it or it will ruin ur relationship focus on ur wedding and ur life with him geez...
2007-01-20 11:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never heard that one before.
maybe he just likes hearing you saying it over and over.
either that or he has major trust issues!
2007-01-20 11:30:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋