A guy seems to think that it would be good to visit him whenever I can so that we can go to bed together ,not get involved and thinks I would enjoy that !Any women out there think he is right ?
2007-01-20 11:17:47 · 49 answers · asked by Rosie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, he sounds like a right tosser
2007-01-20 11:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by serephina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a few very successful, if short lived relationships like this. Intellectually it makes sense to have sex with friends due to trust, shared interests, etc. - but ultimately feelings get in the way. One such relationship I would still call one of my oldest and dearest friends, though we haven't spoken in many years. We were friends for about 2 years, then lovers off and on for a year or 2, then back to just friends for a few years and then I got married and he moved out of town.
Peace!
PS - If you ask me there are times in a woman's life when a casual sex partner (who doesn't have to be coddled or fed or whatever) or even a long distance relationship is just what we need. We get busy and we can not focus on men all the time - sometimes it's nice to have a little fun that doesn't really impose upon or mess around with your actual life - you know?
2007-01-20 11:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a couple friends that do, and they prefer the arrangement for themselves because they don't want a relationship at this point of their lives....too busy for real relationships. I am married but if anything happened I would probable not be interested in a serious relationship, so a friend with benefits would more than likely appeal in that situation. I guess the biggest thing is that you both agree to the terms and are both very "clean" there would be nothing wrong with it. Follow your heart and don't enter into an agreement you are not going to be comfortable with.
2007-01-20 11:25:33 · answer #3 · answered by irish eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wonder how long before one person would become emotionally involved. Once this happens all hell would break out, and what was once fun sex would turn into one person with a broken heart and the end of a friendship. I have seen this happen a number of times and nothing good ever comes of it unless both parties then decide they want the emotional bonding that goes along quite readily with the sex.
2007-01-20 11:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on whether you think that it will break your heart. i dont want to get your hopes up or anything, but when i did that with a guy, we ended up falling in love and are still partners. at the time it seemed like a good idea. we had a lot of chemistry and it was fun lol. but if, after a few times, he rejected me i dont know how i would have coped. you have to ask yourself if you'll be able to control your feelings or if it will ruin your friendship. i think sometimes its good to have a f*ck- buddy if you really need it, but then again it could be the worst thing ever and regret it. just remember, if you do go along with it, safe sex lol- if hes having casual sex with you imagine what he's doing with other women. you have to be careful.
2007-01-20 11:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by chatterbox15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think any relationship is okay as long as both people consent to it. If one has different expectations than the other, that is where it goes wrong and feelings are hurt and people can damage each other. But if there is communication, and you both just want to enjoy your time together physically with no commitment, it can be a very good thing. It's up to you, though, to agree or not.
2007-01-20 11:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
While this may not work for your particular situation, when I was single, I had a friend just for sex. It was a great relationship....we could go out and do whatever we wanted without having all the pressures and responsibilities of a relationship, while still having the physical and intimate closeness with someone. I liked it when I was younger, but now that I've found love, that type of relationship would not satisfy me.
2007-01-20 11:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by rockerchic821 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did this with a friend for two years, no complications, completely mutual. Then met and fell in love with someone else. Then it got really complicated. New man found out, now i can't see my friend at all, haven't seen him for seven years now cos i had to make a choice. Did the right thing and i regret nothing. But consider the consequences carefully. Don't be used.
2007-01-20 11:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by fairycakes1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i'm speaking up on this one honey. hell yeah i think he's right. so many women don't but for me i most definitey do. i was divorced for just a little while when a man i knew was a run around hit on me one night. i thought at first that i wouldn't do that. i had standards after all. i wasn't just gonna roll around in the sack with him. okay i did it. i don't regret a minute of it. we both understood very well what was there. if either of us was dating someone we didn't see each other. other than that if we were in the mood one of us would make the call to the other. it relieved some stress y'all. lol. your single your supposed to have fun. just be safe
2007-01-20 11:25:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lori B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes it would be nice. As long as there were no feelings in the relationship then it could work. I tried it with someone who was in love with me and it caused way too many issues. Sometimes it is nice to be held and to be satisfied. As long as you don't have a relationship that is getting serious, I don't think there is a problem with it. Obviously though, it is personal preference. If you don't think you can handle it, then don't do it. Good luck!
2007-01-20 11:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by Questionqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends solely on you honey .
Some women would not think of it but on the other hand I have had lots of girl friends wont mind just coming around for teh ride. As I said its entirely on how you feel and what you want out of the relationship.
2007-01-20 11:22:42 · answer #11 · answered by rowell1608 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋