He is a twin and the other one doesn t care but he is acting out in school being bad in K and i dont know what too say to him or how to act because this is all new to me to.?
HELP!!!
2007-01-20 11:10:43 · 14 answers · asked by twins 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How old is he? You are just going to have to be patient.Your son is hurting.He may need counselling.
2007-01-20 11:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit all your children down and let them know that you are as you always have been and always will be and their behavior should not change because their father is gone. Tell them that you will not accept their bad behavior, it is important now more than ever that they are helpful and respectful to you, their teachers, classmates and each other. Set down a structure where they have chores they must complete and homework (if there is any) they have to do. Ask their teachers for daily or weekly reports. Try to reward them for accomplishing what they needed to and good behavior with something fun. Let them know that their father being gone doesn't mean that things will slacken. Let them know that you will be vigilant and that you expect them to respect you as primary caregiver. Please do give them more chores, I'm sure things are more difficult for you as a single parent and can use help. Have them set the dinner table, sort or fold laundry. They will benefit too because they will feel like part of the solution rather than part of the problem.
2007-01-20 19:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal my son acted out by talking like a baby it took him years to get out of it. Just encourage him and tell him how important school is. Be there for him.
2007-01-21 01:26:23 · answer #3 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell him exactly what you just posted. You let him know that his Dad left because Dad wasn't happy with the relationship that him and Mom had...not because he wanted to leave the twins....Also let your son know that this is scary and sad for you as the Mom also..but in now way is that an excuse for poor behavior!! Let him talk about the changes...your son is feeling scared because his whole world just got shook up. I feel for you and I know that this must be hard...you really need to find a way to be stern and compassionate. Another good thing is to let your children know that this is a hard transition for you as well. Yes, we need to be strong for our kids...but we also need to let them know that we as adults can be vulnerable as well. And by letting them see our weakness in a tough situation, we are teaching them how to behave in their tough situation.
i wish you luck and I know that with time ...it will get easier. You will adjust to this alot faster than your son will so try to be patient and understanding. But don't waiver on what you expect his behavior to be like!!!
2007-01-20 19:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the mom. Know that it will be your fault (always in their eyes) because it is safe to act out with you because you will not leave them. HUGS HUGS HUGS. Don't say ANYTHING bad about their father. Get them active so that they are busy, busy, busy. This is crushing to them but hopefully the dad will come back and want a relationship.
2007-01-20 19:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pray for your son and tell him that his acting out isn't acceptable. If you aren't religious I appologize for telling you to pray, but that's what helps me.
Maybe you could try to spend some time with your child just having fun. Go on a vacation. Show your kids that they can have fun, even with dad gone.
2007-01-20 19:21:47 · answer #6 · answered by Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your son is acting up, why not talk to him, and tell him that its ok? eventually, his dad might come back and visit you guys. and besides, he is your son, reason with him, just because dad left, does not mean that your son will act up, when u say that, do u mean that he throughs a fit? or he acts up to get attention?
2007-01-20 19:18:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your son may really miss his dad and u can sent your son to his dad for some days and maybe holidays so your son doesnt act like that anymore or else it could get worser!
2007-01-20 19:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jazmin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try having his father spend more time with him. Also,I don't know how old your boy is, but more communication about the situation may help; it sounds like he is blaming you.
2007-01-20 19:18:23 · answer #9 · answered by jeffpsd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry that you are in this position, how old is your son????????????????? explain that it wasn't "his" fault and that he is still his dad, encourage the dad to spend a lot of time with the boys, if your on speaking terms... good luck
2007-01-20 19:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋