i have a 6 month baby boy and my dougter is very jealous what can i do?
2007-01-20 11:08:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It is normal for her to be jealous because the baby is probably demanding a lot of your attention right now.
My best recommendation is to try and let her see that she is just as important. For instance, if you are helping her get dressed and the baby starts fussing don't run to the baby but call to him "Just a minute baby, I have to help sissy get dressed." That way she knows that you aren't going to just leave her to rescue the baby. Also, spend time reading to her and maybe even take her on little outings just the two of you.
If your daughter harms the baby you need to discipline her but always validate her feelings. For instance, "I know it makes you angry when the baby goes into your room but you may not pinch him. You may come to me and I will get him out."
Another thing you might do is try to help her understand that she has an important role as a big sister. Show her how to make him laugh and smile (peek-a-boo) and praise her when she does it. This encourages bonding between them.
It will get a lot easier when they are both a little older because they will play together.
2007-01-20 11:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has been dethroned and she knows it. In the book Siblings Without Rivalry, the authors suggest imaginging your husband coming home and saying, "I love you so much I decided to get another wife. You're going to love her. And you get to share all your old clothes with her, and your toys and books, and just all your stuff. You have to be nice and share. You're the oldest, you have to set a good example."
Not good, eh? So, you want to talk with your daughter about her mixed feelings - let her express her anger and her desire that he disapear. When she says "Take him eback to the hospital" or somesuch, you say, "Oh, you wish it was just you and mommy again." Don't turn away from it. Letting her express it will be good, because she's also ashamed of those feelings. And she needn't be, because they're natural.
Be sure that every time the baby is napping you don't turn to dishes or supper or whatever you used to do when she was napping. Now, you have to spend that time doting on her.
Bring him into the world you two share. Have her show him her playgrounds, her favorite places.
Don't tell her she's big - she's not big. She's still a baby. Respect that. She will tell you when she's big and she'll be thrilled and proud. Ask her what special items she wants to put up so he can't break.
Find the things that can be really fun for the two of them - bubble baths with lots of toys and you monitoring when your baby can sit up sturdily. Lay on the floor next to the baby's blanket and toys and read together.
The more she continues to feel special and the more she is allowed to express ALL her feelings about her brother (expressing feelings is not the same as behaviors as it's not the same as being rude and abusive) the sooner she will be happy loving him and as soon as he's a little older, she'll love playing with him.
Good luck!
2007-01-20 19:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 children as well and went through this with my son. Try doing "special" things with your daughter when the baby is sleeping... like playing a game or just something for the two of you to do. Then while the baby is awake try things like you and her reading to the baby... or letting her help you do things like feedings and such... let her feel involved too. But make sure you and her still have that "special" time everyday just you and her. Hope this helps and good luck!!
2007-01-20 23:15:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that you have some separate time with your daughter without the baby. If that's not possible, make her feel important by having her help with the baby. Have her rock him to sleep, get the changing supplies when he needs a change. Have her teach him how to crawl. She just needs to know that she is still mommy's baby.
2007-01-20 19:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by crodriguez1010 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your daughter that the is her's to, and allow her to be a part of feeding the baby and washing the baby as well as changing the baby, it worked great for me
2007-01-20 19:15:05 · answer #5 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
include your daughter in activities involving the baby. the baby takes up more attention than your daughter does, and she doesn't understand that. let her help you bath the baby, feed him, and change his diaper. get her involved with him and keep telling her you love her just as much as you do him. she's 3, so she's going to be jealous at that age. she will come to understand in time that you love her just as much!
2007-01-20 19:13:31 · answer #6 · answered by zoe and skylar's mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its an attention thing ... She probably thinks with the new baby you don't love her as much .. most kids go through it ... tell her you still love her
2007-01-20 19:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by missdramatick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some one on one time with her, also you could have her help you take care of the baby such as help you feed your son etc...
2007-01-21 15:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have another kid
2007-01-20 19:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
don't home school your kid.....
2007-01-20 19:16:35 · answer #10 · answered by luke 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋