I have been with him 2 and 1/2 years now. His wife has found out about us twice but he's still stuck with me. He gets jealous very easily and can be possesive. We dont have sex that often. I'm 22 and he's 43,his wife is also in her 40's. Why do you think he's stuck with me for so long,is it really love or do you think i'm like his property that he thinks he owns?
2007-01-20 10:59:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why has he stuck with you? You probably look better, pay more attention to him, don't turn him down when he's horny, always make time for him, and don't tell him to bug off when he gets possessive. Yes, you are very much like his property. Is that how you feel?
In my view, what is critical to you is not how he feels or thinks, but how you think, feel, and whether you are or are not getting your needs met. If you are happy with the deal, I'm happy with the deal.
2007-01-20 11:40:28 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he doesn't. I mean, 2 1/2 years. The wife gets half. That's a huge incentive not to split unless you are loaded.
He's stuck on you so long because you are f*cking him. Plain and simple.
Why are you going out with 43 y/o married guys anyway? You're 22! Sorry, I get that age difference is no big deal but what do you two actually have in common? It's not like you have a lot of experience in life to draw upon so what I believe he likes in you is your body and then maybe you yourself. That's it.
2007-01-20 11:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called wanting to have your cake and eat it, too. Look sweetie, he may even believe he loves you, but it is probably more of a midlife crisis thing going on, not to mention him being a dawg. But if you stop and seriously consider things, why would you stay with a liar and a cheat? And remember, he not only lies to his wife and cheats on her, he does the same thing to you. You know for certain that is what he is, don't you? Please, go out and find someone who is worthy of you. Right now, whether you want to believe it or not, you are at an idealistic age. He is cool to have as a lover because he can probably provide you with things. He is also comfortable because of the length of the relationship. It will go nowhere, and you may wake up ten or twenty years down the line and be in the same stagnant nowhere place you are in now. Don't waste time, energy or effort on this bum. And expect more of yourself.
Good luck.
2007-01-20 11:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was in love with you he would have left his wife and he would have only been with you! Why are you with a married man? What is the point? If you fell in love, and he or you were already married, D-I-V-O-R-C-E! 3 1/2 years and he is still with his wife? I don't think so!
2007-01-20 11:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man like that,is possessive over you because he knows he can be. He probably played on your emotions,telling you how great you were,and wanted to fullfill your emotional desires. He doesn't love you,he loves what he gets from you,and how you are faithfully with him,though he has a wife. This is about as low as life can get for you at this point. Feel free to jump over the bar and out of his clutch.
2007-01-20 11:06:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he's just using you, sorry to put it so bluntly. But if you have any self-respect, dump him like a sack of potatoes. First of all, I'm sure there are tons of handsome, young, AVAILABLE men who would love to be with you. You have a lot to offer, I'm sure... you need to dump his sorry butt and move on girl, you deserve better than to be a booty call for a middle aged man who can't even make up his mind.
Good luck!
2007-01-20 11:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by Sunshineluvr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
****or do you think i'm like his property that he thinks he owns?
There's your answer dear. Think about it, he his eating his cake and having you on the side for dessert. Why are you wasting your youthfulness on a relationship that will go nowhere? He is using you, do you feel like a used rug?
2007-01-20 11:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could be just using you? but there is a chance that he does love you too, dont count on him leaving his wife for you , chances are pretty slim, go find someone who isnt a cheater and slime bag that can have a real relationship with you.
2007-01-20 11:03:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you then why hasn't he got a divorce?
2007-01-20 11:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by Nette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt really love you because he is still living with his wife . it's an answer for your problem, isn't?
2007-01-20 11:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by dantistryfiliya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋