Is this normal...? Everytime I get into a relationship, really early into it I get wicked attached to the person. I don't let them know or show it at all but when we end up breaking up I am so crushed. For example, this last relationship I had we were dating for maybe 1 1/2 months and I went into the hospital...long story which I regret greatly...well In a way my BF was supportive, selling his sterio for gas money to come see me, but when he got there he put me down...well I cant remeber I was so drugged up from sleeping medicine so I have a brain block of 3 days but my best friend told me he was swearing at me and making me cry and stuff. Some say it was cuz he was scared...w/e anyways after hearing all this it made me sick to even think about him but when he said he needed alone time and didn't want to see me after I had gotten out I was so hurt. I don't know why!!! I hate him yet I cant help but love him. I need help really bad it happens every time I date some1. Can I make it stop
2007-01-20 10:46:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes you can get over it, you just have to believe that you have a large amount of self worth, drugs, drink and a wild dangerous life is not the answer to life, it's a quick way to death or worse. The answer is to look for the fun things in life that you can share with real friends and people who love you for you, fill your self and your life around you with nice things, things that make you truly happy, and remind your self that there is more to life then running away from life, and be determind to go look for it !
I promise you it's out there * hugs* I know.
2007-01-20 10:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is as serious as your making it sound, get therapy. If you get into a relationship, the second it starts, tell yourself, "he could dump me any minute, so enjoy the moment." Its not that positive, but you wont get as attached. Enjoy the times when your with your bf but be aware, boys are strange. You could be having the time of your life and he could say "its over." Oh, and the bf you had that was swearing at u and stuff... DUMP HIM!!!! Get over him. You are WAY too good for a guy that insulted you and put u down. Anyone is! If he;s really that great, he'd act like it, too.
2007-01-20 18:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEs you can just remember what they have done for you to feel this way and get over it because you need to move on. It is called falling in love. That's is what happens to you. You and and guy liek each other and you fall in love with them and tehy don't, there's nothign wrong with that except when they break up which only hurts more but your a big girl and can get over it. SO just remember what they put you thru and don't worry and move on. HEy need to chat with some one IM me anytime
2007-01-20 18:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing that you can do will help, you are codependent, I am as well, being alone terrifies you, the thought of it makes you cringe, so you know what its like in the dating world, a world of fakes, fattys, and wierdos, so when you find someone thats even a little normal and average on the attraction scale, you cling on to them so tightly that sometimes you lose sight of who they really are, this time i guarded my heart a little more, and kissed alot of frogs, and finally found someone worth hanging on to, what you need to do is re-evaluate all the positive and negative things in your relationship and i bet you will find that this guy is a jerk, and try to protect your heart and get back out there and wait until the right one truely comes along good luck to you
2007-01-20 18:57:46 · answer #4 · answered by waterboy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this process has happened more than say three times, it's very likely you'll need professional help. Can you find a therapist or counselor with whom you can talk?
2007-01-20 18:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well we sometimes have to survive to get older. People got things to do. This is not a perfect emotional world. Sometimes it sucks. Sometimes you are up, sometimes you are down....sorry.
2007-01-20 18:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i get kinda the same way with women i have dated,i am very possesive....maybe not as severe as you but i am...just be cool and keep space between you and your partner...make'm work for you.good luck and be safe squirellie@aol.com
2007-01-20 18:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by wayne_jarman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋