why do i feel guilty?

Question

im a single father i have raised my son by myself for the last 16 yrs
the women who had him abandon him not willing to contribute
earns a million a year why do i feel guilty for persuing child support?

Answer 1

I would have to guess that you feel guilty because you don't need the amount of money they would give you based on her income. My son is only four and I have not received any help from his father nor have I asked because I am taking care of him. I am more concerned with 'daddy' being a part of his life than any financial support. We (my family) surround him with enough love for ten 'daddies'-he doesn't even know what that is right now. When he is older, he will decide their relationship, I will never deny them each other. I am the only single parent that feels this way I bet .I think to lessen your guilt, if you pursue child support, put it in a trust fund for when he is 25 or something. You are obviously done raising him. If you can, set him up for a successful future.

Answer 2

Because we've been indoctrinated to believe that asking for child support is greedy. People who walk away from their children do so because they have no proper bond with their kids and don't understand the financial and emotional aspects that are involved in bringing up a child.
And by the way, too many people feel that paying child support negates their other obligations and responsibilities to that child. Like being a proper loving parent.

Answer 3

You are feeling guilty because you are not realizing that child support is not for you that it is for the child. If you think of it that way then I am sure that you will feel much better about it. This will be very good for him and will at the very least pay for his college.

Answer 4

I don't know. You shouldn't. But more than likely it comes from how you were raised. If you earn enough to support your child in a traditional lifestyle and he doesn't want for anything, you might be feeling uneasy taking money from someone who doesn't want anything to do with him. But if you want or need the money for a good reason (such as college), he certainly deserves it.

Answer 5

because you are a kind man and it usually the other way around, but don't feel guilty for pursuing it, it is her reponsiblity to help take care of your child. it takes 2 to bring a child into this world. you are doing the only thing that you can. so don't feel guilty.

Answer 6

You shouldn't feel guilty and I wish you well. I raised my daughter under similar circumstances and never got a dime. Now that my daughter is an adult her mother contacted her and tells her how much she missed her while she grew up. Never even once sent her a birthday card or Christmas present.

Answer 7

He!! no dont feel guilty!!! Get back child support too!!! And why havent you have child support until now????? You know if the rolls were reversed no one would feel guilty taking your money!!!

Answer 8

Because it reminds you of that self centered ***** and the though of her being envolved with your child health and welfare make you feel guilty to subject the child you raised to having her involved again with your child life.

Answer 9

I have no idea how you could possibly feel guilty. It is her son to and she should have to contribute something. Don't feel guilty and get what you need. Best of luck!

Answer 10

dont feel guilty she has a right to suport her son . you have been there and you should be proud to be the dad . and i would take her to court and make pay suport and back suport . i wish you the best of luck and good luck