Ok..I will try to make this make since as much as I can..me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 years now and have never been more inlove with anybody. I know I am only 17 and most people don't think a 17 would know what love is..but believe me I do. We have had a pretty amazingly, crazy, wild, hard, but great relationship. He came from a pretty crazy background, (abusive dad, parents who have used drugs his whole life, etc.) And I came froma totally diffrent background. Well latley..things have been really crazy..were are growing up and maturing and not maturing..but alot of the things he went through growing up have been shining more than ever..he has such a good heart, and I don't have any doubt that he loves me with his whole heart. But I am afraid he is turning into his dad..mostly because of stress and thats all he knows..but it is hurting us..and I don't know what to do..I try to be sympathetic..but I get hurt alot..((emotionally)) I need help.
2007-01-20 10:24:18 · 7 answers · asked by Kristen R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all things you need to make sure that you are comfortable talking to him about anything. If he is hurting you emotionally, he may not even know that he is doing it. I know that you love him and it is hard to figure out what to do in a situation like this but you also need to be thinking about your own health. You don't want to become depressed over something that may have a simple solution. Also please remember that you are still young and that there are a lot of guys out there still. If it doesn't work out with him.... don't blame yourself, if you are willing to fix it and he isn't then you can't help that.
2007-01-20 10:30:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you get hurt emotionally, the relationship is wrong and bound to fail. He needs counseling to help him understand that he is becoming like his dad and you can support him in that and even be a part of the counseling but if he wont do that, you need to get out of the relationship and find someone with the things you love minus the emotional hurts you are enduring.
2007-01-20 10:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You DO need help, He needs help even more. If you love him, get him to see someone. Go to the school councilor or something, on the d.l. if you have to. 17 can be a confusing, stressful time, especially if, like him, he has NO positive "role model" to guide and nurture him. The sooner the better.
2007-01-20 10:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by isis8x3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should sit down and talk to him about it and if u cant get through to him maybe u should consider contacting a therapist!!
2007-01-20 10:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by oompaloompa2718 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww. have you talked to him about this yet? I think it's best if you bring attention to this by talking directly to him.
2007-01-20 10:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anita. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he resents his dad's behavior as much as it sounds like to me then you should talk to him about it-it may surprise and even scare him to hear you say it.
2007-01-20 10:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by shawna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not normall he only knows what he grew up with and that is what he is going to do.
2007-01-20 10:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by Hoss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋