Maid of Honor tradition....?

Question

I was the Maid of Honor at my best friend (W)'s wedding. I do not have any experience so I bought my own dress, I went to the salon that W reserved. But I paid for my hair. After that, she asked me to go pick up the bouquet, I ended up paying $130.00 for that. When I got to the chapel with my boy friend, W told me that my boy friend can't come inside the chapel because there aren't enough chairs. So He waited outside. At the reception area, I didn't have any table assigned, so I had to stand the whole time right next to the bathrooms. After the wedding, I felt so small, I stopped talking to W. What is tradition? Does maid of honor pays for the dress, hair, make-up and bouquet and have no table and chair at the reception?

Answer 1

The maid of honor has to pay for her own hair, and dress and accessories except for her own boquet. The groom and or his family is responsible for any and all flowers.
It is shameful that you didn't have a reserved seat. Your place is right next to the bride. "W" showed you no respect and wasn't much of a friend. It was also unreasonable that your date wasn't permitted into the chapel. The Bridal party is supposed to receive preferential treatment. Your best friend wasn't a friend at all and simply used you. It's unfortunate but count yourself glad that she isn't part of your life anymore.

Answer 2

As maid of honor you usually do pay for your own dress etc but you are also usually at the main table along with the bride and groom and the best man. W has some nerve treating you that way and I wouldnt speak to her either and if she asks why be sure you tell her that when you agreed to become her maid of honor it didnt mean that you agreed to be used and then tossed aside. She should have paid for your bouquet also and you should have gotten a gift from the bride and groom as thanks for your help and support. She sounds like a loser to me. Next time clarify exactly what you will be required to pay for and where you will be sitting with the bridal party before you say yes to a request to be in the wedding.

Answer 3

Oh , my Gosh I would Have Left Let her find some one else At the last Moment, NO, NO IT is Her position to Make sure she has the dress flowers an table set up for the whole wedding party. How Offal for you , You are at the most a better friend then she.Go to National Association of Wedding ministers on line If you can't get there Go to wedding etiquette that should come up for you , also I hope you feel good about your self that you a better person then to hold on to that past situation.

Answer 4

Yes, she does have to shoulder the cost of the dress & hair, but the bride had a responsibilty to let you in on the cost of being the Maid of Honor, and you let you take part in the financial decisions.
I never heard of the bridesmaids buying their own flowers-that seems unjustified.
And you certainly should have had a place to sit at the wedding!
You were the victim of a Bridezilla. I wouldn't talk to her ever again either.

Answer 5

Is it possible that there were just some mistakes? In many weddings the bride herself is not in charge of all the details on the wedding day. Maybe the wedding planner or whoever was in charge just accidentally left you out during the reception.

Answer 6

You didn't even have a place to sit at the reception?

That bride sounds like a...you know what.

Sorry, but there's no way to sugar-coat that. Good luck in finding better friends. And I wouldn't blame you if you are hesitant about being in any more weddings in the future.

Answer 7

Yeah, you should have been seated at the long table with the bride, groom, best man, bridesmaids, and groomsmen.

It sounds like your friend shafted you...big time.