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feeling really depressed over break up. i've been so negative and can't have happy thoughts. can i borrow yours?

2007-01-20 10:15:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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You're probably really hot and he is just a loser that wants to get high rather than be with the most beautiful woman in the world. I would never dump a hottie like you. You're just in a slump right now but, it's for the best. In the next week or two the man of your dreams will walk right into your life and sweep you off your feet! I'd go out tonight with your girl friends and forget all about this loser.

2007-01-20 10:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by selljpk4fun 2 · 1 0

Hi

I used to be sad and negative too, and once in a good while I still feel this way but not as bad.

What helped me get through the day is when I remind myself that I made a right decision. Besides, if he was for me I would not have been feeling bad all the time, as I was advised.

So with that in mind I felt good in an instant and I treat myself better. Whenever I can I try to lift up someone else by making them feel better, lifting up their spirit and realizing this is not the worse that can happen to someone in the world. So why be depressed over it.

I may still have some feelings for him, but I'm having such a good time I'm too busy to remember how the loser made me feel.

2007-01-20 11:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by anna 4 · 0 0

It's normal to feel as you feel, and it really hurts. It's hard not to be depressed over something like this. What helped me when that happened to me, was to allow myself to be sad and mope. Then it was time to enjoy my life again. Your boyfriend is not more important than you are. If he has the right to pursue happiness, then so do you. You shouldn't have to be unhappy just because you are no longer together. Find something to do that makes you happy and do it. Socialize with others - even if it's just a good friend. If you have a guy friend, hang out with him or do things with him, so that you can see that other guys appreciate your friendship and like you, even if only in a platonic way. For me, working out helped a lot. It made me feel fit and healthy, but also worked off my stress and released a lot of happy endorphins. Spoil yourself. Do something good for yourself. It's okay. Just hang in there, because with time, the depression will lift. It couldn't hurt to write your ex a letter of all the feelings you are having right now, and then DON'T mail it - just keep it to yourself, read it again every few days or so, and then finally, shred it, burn it, rip it up, whatever - just get rid of it. You will feel better. If you believe in prayer, then pray about it. Pray for peace in your heart. It does help. Best of wishes to you. Remember, though, that if your former boyfriend was attracted to you to begin with, then other men will be also.

2007-01-20 10:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 1 0

sorry about the break up but there always more fishes in the sea. First of all try reading some interesting books, go out with some friends or shopping. Ive been there to many times and i just read, shop and fine other things to do go out dancing if you like meet new people enjoy your life. Best thing to do though is to ask God to give you stright to move on with your live and watch what happens.

2007-01-20 10:24:57 · answer #4 · answered by shorty4475860 1 · 0 0

Check out my profile for my philosophy. I am a Forgive Affirmed Spirit. There are many fishes in that sea. It would be good to understand why the ex dumped you. Evaluate that from a positive perspective and forgive/share that circumstance with others to build affirming friendships. Keeping it all to yourself is not a good thing, unless you are very very strong willed. Sounds like you are not.

2007-01-20 10:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

enable me get this promptly- he dumps you after 11 years, strikes directly to a various woman, canines on you, and you nevertheless LOVE him??? enable me count quantity the wasys it is undesirable: a million) If in 11 years he in no way positioned a hoop on your finger, that's because of the fact he had to leave an hassle-free out- no divorce, no alimony. 2) If he moved on so actually, particularly after 11 years, he in all danger cheated on you during the time you have been jointly. 3) If he's been asserting undesirable issues approximately you sinse the breakup, he has the adulthood of a touch severe college BOY. So once you ruin it down, you're nevertheless hung up on a flakey, immature, cheating loser. WHY??? It seems such as you romanticize the way it grow to be, no longer considering you like him, yet considering you experience you desire like to end your existence. positioned down the Crispy Creme, soak up exercising, and detect a interest you like. discover ways to love your self, and that loser won't rely. have faith me, i comprehend.

2016-10-07 11:28:59 · answer #6 · answered by riesgo 4 · 0 0

Hi-

Sure you can borrow or have mine...
1. Take a shower and get dressed
2. Go to a movie, bookstore, whatever..

Life does not stop or end just because someone dumps you. Dry your tears and get back to *you*.... No one is going to cheer you up but yourself. So- you can either be miserable and cry and look terrible...OR you can carry on and flirt and enjoy your me time while you can.

tahiti

2007-01-20 10:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by tahitidreamz 2 · 1 0

first of all it is very hard to get over a relationship, especially if it is someone you truly love. I am also going through a hard time getting over my ex, but I've found that it helps to keep myself busy as much as possible. and also it helps to hang out with friends and family alot. try starting a new hobby or getting involved in volunteer work. good luck hun

2007-01-20 10:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by The Spazz 5 · 0 0

I dont know how long you were with this guy but allow yourself time to get over him.
To start,
1.write down a list of all the shytty things he did to you while you were dating.
(maybe he called you fat or cheated on you)

2.then write down all of his annoying habits (burped in public, funkky breath etc)
3. write down all the things that you desire in a man that he was not
4. refer to 1, 2 and 3 often

2007-01-20 10:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0 0

Think of some one else...OR... Hang out with friendz. If you can't do that participate in exercising hobbies, like skate boarding? Or if your not the "exercise type" find something else you like, like computer car racing? Just something you HAVE to have FULL concentration on.

2007-01-20 10:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by tori 1 · 0 0

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