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Help please! 16 year old?
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my 16 year old is not doing too well. she just recently swichted schools from a catholic small school to public school because she said it was too small and it was all girl. i understand that. but now she is not doing her homeork and she has lost all interest in her school work. she does not party, in fact, i try to encourage her to go out more. she doesn't have boyfriends, she has liked the same boy for 6 years. i do not know what to do with her. she is really inteligent and the fact of the matter is, she cries durings breaks at school, spends time talking to the councelors and she verbally yells and is always "tired." what should i do? should i let her switch schools? or is she the problem? please help any advice will be useful. she has everything a car, private lessons in golf every day. what should i do? please help me.
2007-01-20 10:15:16 · 8 answers · asked by ihaveaquestion24 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
she has a therapist. i also have her visit a "healing"masuse. I don't know.
2007-01-20 10:24:31 · update #1
funny thing is that she people love her. So should I take her to her doctor? She drinks 5 shots a day of coffee we tried to make her quit. She eats a lot one day then eats nothing the next. She works out after she eats. She is always too tired to answer questions.
2007-01-20 10:30:49 · update #2
i asked her if she liked her therapist and she said that she infacts LOVES her therapist. Her therapist calls her during the week to check out how she is and her therapist raves that she is infact a very inteligent girl. shes just unhappy and she has everything to be successfull...execpt her school is not being a good medium for how great she truly is. infact, my daughter answers questions as if shes an old soul. her frriends call during sessions sometimes (accidentaly on the cell) and the therapist says shse picks up an goes "hey babe im in therapy can i call you back?" and the therapist was shocked that she was open to tell her girlfriends that she was in therapy. my daughter replied "well it's my problem. and if i'm over it, why shouldn't every one else?" and when asked about a boyfriend she replies " i don't need someone to make me happy. i want my boyfriend to be the cherry on top to my happiness. not my only happiness. i need to be happy first."
2007-01-20 11:24:46 · update #3
Do you know if she likes her therapist? It seems like you're really trying to help her - and that's great - but it's important that she has a therapist who is both competent AND easy for your daughter to talk to.
2007-01-20 11:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by jdphd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh the joys of teenage girls? I also have(had) one who did the same thing. She is now 20 on college and doing great but 16 was rough. I don't know how you feel about anti depressants but they made the world of difference in mine. Try to encourage outside activities and friends. Things will get better with time so just hang in there . I also have 3 other girls ages 12 , 6, and 1 so I have three more to look forward to ..oh joy! lol. Seriously it does get better as they get older.
2007-01-20 18:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by GI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa this sounds like the whole family could use an overhaul. You stated that her therapist calls her during the weak..Does this sound okay to you? I would maybe consider having her committed for a phsc evaluation before its to late. defiance disorder,eating disorder,bi polar and what else? You should also seek some help for co dependecy issues... Lead by example...Good Luck
2007-01-20 19:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by truthseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not enjoying those things that she used to and is crying for no reason, she is probably depressed. Take her to a psychologist that specializes in depression and don't be surprised if she is placed on medication. She could also be bi-polar, which can have some of the same symptoms as depression.
2007-01-20 18:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to a doctor get her to tell him everything and see if he can prescribe any medication it sounds like a case of depression, I wouldn't let her change schools she sounds like you really look out for your children's happiness buying them such great stuff but she needs to learn to buckle down and stick it out otherwise she will not stick to one thing she will just choose the easy way out.
You sound like a very good mother take her to a doctor it sounds like something that can easily be fixed with medication.
2007-01-20 18:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she has too much. Stop worrying, give her some freedom,
(not too much) let her find herself.
At that age a young girl doesn't want "too much'" interference from parents. You will still be there to guide her.
2007-01-20 18:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get her to a psychiatrist. Sounds like she has depression. This needs to be treated.
2007-01-20 18:20:50 · answer #7 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could the problem be that she "has everything"?
2007-01-20 18:22:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋