Hi, my ex dumped me a week ago. We are now on good terms and have decided to remain good friends. Its his 21st nxt week, and i want to still get him something. Are there any suggestions, bcos im not sure whats appropriate, and something thats not too expensive, i just want to give him a little something. Thanks xxx
2007-01-20 10:11:14 · 33 answers · asked by Smiley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tough position- and I am sure that there are still a lot of feelings towards him, especially this soon in the break-up. I think you might be setting yourself up for disappointment- how are you going to feel if ou give him a birthday present and you find he hooks up w/another girl while he's out w/his boys for his birthday? The first thing you're going to think is- "i can't believe I got that scumbag a birthday present"
Your best bet is just getting him a card and mailing it to him. How good does it feel to get mail!? Plus- it'll send the message that you're still thinking about him and you hope he enjoys his day, AND it won't carry any extra meanings- he won't get a card and be like "omg I can't take this can i? She wants to be more than friends- this can't happen- we can't be friends."
I'm a guy- I'm 23- I think this how I would feel and what I would most if I truly wanted to be on good terms w/a recent ex.
Good luck.
2007-01-20 10:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by toburn41 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't get him anything. Your friendship after a break-up is gift enough. Been there, done that. If you get him a gift, he will think you are still interested. Have some dignity - let him pursue YOU again if you want him back. This way, he won't take you for granted and he will appreciate you more. If you truly are happy just being friends, then give the friendship time to evolve from a romantic relationship to a platonic one. Giving a gift to a recently broken-up with boyfriend screams of "I want you back". If that is not your intent, it could very well be perceived that way.
2007-01-20 10:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am fond of giving gifts which makes me a desirably thoughtful person. That being said, it is the thought that really counts.
However, if you do want to take an extra mile in your gesture, I suggest that you give him something that is related to his interests. You can even just make your own. It would mean more special if you do.
I normally give things like a fridge magnet, a miniature message bottle, a handmade card, a mug or a button.
I am sure you know his likes so it shouldn't be hard for you to choose.
2007-01-20 10:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by nomamalin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only dumped you a week ago..how on earth can you be on good friends terms yet. The only reason you want to get him a present is because you think if you keep his attention you'll get him back. Move on, already. Or send him a card, at the very most.
2007-01-20 10:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a gift card (small amount $25.00 or less) to his favorite resturant. Tell him that you would love to take him out for his birthday for a drink or two if he does not have any other plans.....that way if he does he can use the card to get a few drinks but not enough to take out some other woman on your dime. Furthermore, it is a 'non threatening gift' and there is no way he can dislike it or accuse you of an alterior motive
2007-01-20 10:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you reckon its sorted, I say only a card and buy him a pint next time you see him out. Don't go to any major trouble. Like you say, 'he dumped you' only a week ago. I personally wouldnt bother with the pint but its a gesture I suppose.
2007-01-20 10:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by missmossee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not lose any sleep worrying what to buy him, he dumped you for goodness sake. Get him a DVD of his favourite artist if you must buy him something. Are you sure you do not want him back. Good luck to you, you are far too good for him, move on.
2007-01-20 10:17:36 · answer #7 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something really small... but only you would know... like a cd from his favourite band... something like that. Something not too expensive, but something that will let him know you still care (but aren't still in love). Don't go and get a framed picture of the two of you or anything like that... that would be waaaaaayyyyyyy OTT
2007-01-20 10:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by waz g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get him anything at all, you guys broke up and now its over.. i dumped my boyfriend (with whom i was with for a year) about 2 weeks before his birthday so i wouldnt have to buy him anything, but dont get me wrong folks i had been planning to dump him long before that so ya cant really blame me
2007-01-20 10:45:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know why you are buying your ex a present.
But if you feel you must buy something completely NOT personal. Buy a joke book. Or a gag gift.
2007-01-20 10:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋