My fiance and I made a agreement about something. He broke the agreement and then lied to me about it to my face. Then I pretty much caught him red handed. He finally told the truth. We have two kids together and i really believe that he is sorry. Nobody's perfect right? How do I get past this? What can he do to prove I can trust him?
2007-01-20 10:10:18 · 5 answers · asked by kassie37110 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow. That must really hurt to be lied to like that. How to go about healing from it is tough, but it can be done. Does your fiancé know how much he hurt you? Having children with him means that you are really going to have to treat this more like a marital problem than a fiancé problem. I suggest going through a period of “trust but verify.”
2007-01-20 10:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by Patrick C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant force trust it has to be earned, i dont know what he did but im guessin he cheated? Thats an extremely big betrayal especially when u have children, u need to take some time out and decide for yourself if hes worth stayin with (for u, not for ur children,i know u want to keep ur family together but children are bettor off with happy seperated parents then parents who stay together but fight), and whether u think u wil ever trust him again, relationships just dont work when there is no trust, he needs to earn that back by being faithful 100%. Also lots of gifts and chocolate may help..
2007-01-20 18:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right, nobody is perfect. However, I believe trust is earned and not given. For him to prove he can be trusted, you can't give him a stipulation, he has to want to show you on his own. Telling him what you expect from your significant turns you into his mom. Rather than that, he should come to you volunteering to you wanting to earn your trust. If he is not making the effort, then maybe he is not one.
"How do I get past this?" You will have to forgive him...honestly...forgive him without bringing it up later in an arguement.
2007-01-20 18:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine23511 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that I would let him figure that out.He lied so he should find a way to get your trust back,but you are right,nobody is perfect.Are you,maybe,being to serious about this agreement or was it something that should have been that inportant to the both of you?Think about it.
2007-01-20 18:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by THOMAS L P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, honey you want depending on the circumstances of the situation. Because you will always have it inthe back of your mind that he will lie to you a again and he will. He may be sorry but he will lie again. Be on the look out sweetie.
2007-01-20 18:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by creamy k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋