We went to the same high school but we weren't friends then. Since August of last year we started hanging out more and became friends. But I don't think he would look at me as anything more than a friend, and sometimes if the topic of relationships comes up between all our friends he'll tell us about how bad his past relationships were and how they aren't worth it. But me and him are a lot alike, enough so that one of my friends noticed and asked me if I like him. She says she can see us together. I was thinking about having her find out what he thinks of me (I really don't want to just tell him because that would make things very awkward). And then at least I would have a definite answer and could either get over him (if he doesn't like me) or go for it (if he does). What would you do in this situation?
2007-01-20 09:59:33 · 15 answers · asked by Alice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's very difficult if you have a really good friendship with him, because of course, you don't want to loose that. I would advise you to keep in mind to maybe NOT involve your other friend too much, because that might cause problems later on, regardless of which way things go.
(think about it: do you REALLY need her to find out how he thinks about you???!!!)
If you are falling for a friend sooner or later both WILL know, and the right moment will come to let the other one know. Be patient. Be there for him. If you really like him a lot, he may see you as a friend now, but the time will come when he sees that you are much more than that.
Hope that helps. Of course, you can also tell him straightforward, what you feel. However, that may scare him off, if he's not ready to change from friendship to sth else!
It's your intuition about this that counts!
2007-01-20 10:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen I'm 29, dated my guy friend for 2 1/2 years, and just recently broke it off, for good.
I feel really bad that it is over, but now I mourn for my friendship, that is dead as a result of this.
We broke it off once before, claiming to remain friends only. Friends only didn't work, we went right back to the way things were. And as I have told you, It did not work.
If you are willing to take that chance (big chance) that you may lose your friendship in the process of dating, then by all means, try it out.
If you would rather have a friend for life, then keep it just that,friends.
I know that I do not know how all things will end, I am not omnipotent, but this I am familiar with.
Just what I would do, but you asked that.
good luck, i hope that whatever you decide to do that it works out for you.
2007-01-20 18:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's difficult and awkward, but I reckon you should broach the subject yourself. You are now friends, so tell him that although he's had difficult relationships in the past, you really like him and would like to move your friendship to another plane. He obviously likes you, otherwise he wouldn't be hanging out with you, but whether he likes you enough to form a relationship with is the question.
If you want something in life, you just have to bite the bullet and have a go!
2007-01-20 18:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he talks about his past bad relationships, tell him about problems with your past relationships as well so that he sees that you have that in common also. If your friend talks to you both perhaps she can mention to him that he should ask you out, or ask him yourself to go out for coffee without making it anything other than two friends going out and perhaps it can develop from there to more.
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2007-01-20 18:09:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You only live once. Go for it, worse case is you both don't work out and then at least you know. Maybe he is the man of your dreams and you don't know it yet. Just hang out with the guy and see what happens. Don't let fear and anxiety rule your life.
2007-01-20 18:07:23 · answer #6 · answered by selljpk4fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think i would get ur friend to find out. He may like u , guys r afraid to ask ppl out, 2. i had a guy friend of 4 yrs who i thought i loved. He liked me to, and i had the courage 2 ask him out. we went out until i moved a yr ago, best thing i ever did
2007-01-20 18:07:26 · answer #7 · answered by im_gonna_be_famous525 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah get a friend to find out the best way.
2007-01-20 18:07:37 · answer #8 · answered by Clare C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes friends are just that ,friends.if he really wanted to be more than that you would have picked up all the signals from him.so for now just be friends.and enjoy each olthers company.
2007-01-20 18:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by fernaldguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would simply wait until the man asks me out. If he doesn't ask you out, he is not interested in you. Everything else is just conversation.
2007-01-20 18:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋