My boyfriend is really good to me but there are things that I just don't like about him. For example he still lives at home at 20, his personality is totally different from mine, I love to travel and explore new things but he's a homebody that never wants to do anything. We've been together for 3 years and nothing has changed. I've always have had doubts in my mind if we are really meant to be together. I don't want to make a mistake and leave someone who treats me nice and end up never finding someone. I don't know why I'm so worried because I'm just 18 but I'm just scared of making a mistake. What should I do? and Do you think I'm too young for such a serious relationship?
2007-01-20 09:58:26 · 10 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend isn't going to school he's a manager and I feel like he stays at home because he chooses to no because he has too.
2007-01-20 15:26:08 · update #1
Sounds like you care for this guy a lot so probably best not to make any rash decisions you're still young. Perhaps you could do some of the travelling by yourself if he doesn't want to tag along then it doesn't matter. Absence makes the heart grow fonder after all. Have an independent life in some ways while still showing him your affection.
2007-01-20 10:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by Clare C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18, you have a lot of life ahead of you and if you continue in this relationship you have to realize that you will be giving up the things you enjoy doing. don't be afraid of making mistakes, other than getting into a relationship to serious at your age. but do those things by yourself and you will find that you lose interest in him in time and find someone else who has the good qualities you see in him but also the ones that you would like him to have as well, such as exploring new things.
2007-01-20 18:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down sweetheart. How old is this guy? 20 right? How old are you? Just 18, and you are complaining about him still living at home. What you need is some clarevoyance and to ask yourself if he has the "potential" to be a good husband and provider later in life. If he is still living at home and has no ambition or drive and just wants to hang out and waste his time then you should move on. However if he is very focused and possibly in school or working then judge him on these facts and not on the fact that he still lives at home with mom at the "old" age of 20. I hope you caught the sarcasm in my last statement lol. The bottom line is you need to weigh the pros and cons and if you are not satisfied, move on. It seems you are very mature for your age and you very well may need to be with an older, well established man.
2007-01-20 18:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's 20 and still lives at home, give the guy a break, especially if he puts himself through school. If he was maybe 25 and was still living at home with mom and dad, then I would wonder.
I prefer someone who isn't a homebody. I knew a woman who married a man who never wanted to travel, and I think she loathes him for that. He never takes her places. You're right there. Beware of those type of guys. I wouldn't want one of those either.
Find someone motivated. And you're only 18, date around!
2007-01-20 18:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont think you're ever "too young" for a serious relationship, but since you are young it might be a good idea to see other people and see whats out there..sorta just take a break. Let him know about how you feel and ask him if hes willing to do things your intrested in and vise versa. If hes not then take a break, and if you can't stay away from eachother then maybe its meant to be and you just have to work through the differences.
2007-01-20 18:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why cant u travel without him, long distance relationships can work providing you both put in effort and only you can decide whether your too young for a serious relationship, its been goin for 3 yrs already so i think u already decided u want it serious. Just talk to your bf and tel him u plan on travelling soon and talk about what u both think is best to happen.
2007-01-20 18:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you arent satisfied and if you're not, then you need to move on. you have been with him so long, he is more a habit than being with him out of love. life is too short to settle. if he isnt everything you have ever dreamed of, them move on and search for what you know you want in a relationship. dont settle hun. you will regret it. good luck.
2007-01-20 18:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are too young , however I would find out what plans your BF has if any collage, work , moving out on his own, with your relationship etc...the best way to work around your problem is communication with your BF..good luck
2007-01-20 18:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by dheck03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh 20 and still living at home have you spoken to him about this could be he is saving his money to get a place of his own.
2007-01-20 18:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him how you really feel. Tell him everything from what you've wrote I think he'll understand
2007-01-20 18:12:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋