hi i had a brain hemorrhage in April 2004..im better now but there are things that i miss so much when i was normal (i should say)..my memory has been an issue for me,as well as my right leg.
im very outgoing person, like 2 play hoop,2 dance..dancing is my passion next 2 bsktball but those, I kind of set aside for now bcoz of my condition physically&mentally..
my right hand is better now its like almost back 2 normal..i go 2 the gym evry other day for my leg but its been 2 & a half yr?..i feel dat my leg is getting stronger but still unable to gain muscles and all dat..
i have to wear a leg brace for my stability & somehow ...for better walking.
my doctor said that this will take me 2 or 3 yrs to get fully recovered, with that coming from her i kept my spirit high, give myself incouragement, im a positve thinker but sometimes i get so confused...my wife is helping me by massaging my leg but i knw that she dont like 2see me like this..hw can i show her that evrything will b ok?
2007-01-20 09:41:46 · 7 answers · asked by nex 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Something like that is hard for anyone, and the best thing to do is keep strong for you and your wife all though it may be hard, nothing can keep you from doing the things that you love unless you let it and from what you have said it sounds like your a fighter and if you keep at that i'm positive that everything can work out for the best, but the thing around times for full recovery are different for everyone back in 2002 i lacerated my spleen and it was suppose to take 3 to 5 years to fully recover and it healed completely in 3 months.
And if you can feel your leg is getting stronger don't give up on that because if you feel it getting better it is getting better regardless of how long it takes
2007-01-20 09:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by Nick B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Heart :
Please do not give up on your self-recovery. Your self-confidence, and also your self-healing, because this is what you are doing in having faith and being positive. I can understand you because I was paralysed on the left side from a stroke but never gave up to my insecurities. And that was ten years ago. I'm not a kid, but I loved to dance too and I can hardly do it now, but once in a while, I just get up and dance the slow-waltz for a few minutes with a friend I trust because I do not have balance and I'm visually impaired on the left side. However, this does not stop me from going out every day, walking with a cane and go wherever I need to go.
I understand perfectly about your wife too. I use to live on the second story building with an exterior stairway in the winter with ice and snow, and everyone was worried about me falling... I kept my positive attitude and never stopped going down and up those stairs twice a day...You will be all right! You are on your way. Please do not get confused because you are a determined person and you will definitely succeed. You have a loving wife who's helping you and of course she would not like to see you give up after so much efforts!
You've got the perfect receipe to succeed! And faith can do miracles! Those are real. Not only in the movies! Take it one day at a time, and continue with your good work and by the time you know it, you will be able to do something you sometimes doubt you can do again...
It will come naturally... That's how miracles happen! I still remember the first time I walked down my stairway without holding the ramp.( a spiraled stairway). A friend was talking to me and without realizing it, I came down without fear or anything ! I realized it, I was down on the pavement!
This was my experience and I hope it can help you on the road to complete recovery!
Shalom with God's blessings.
2007-01-20 18:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your condition. Do you have any children?
Does the Doctors have any idea what caused the hemorrhage?
Has it affected your speech at all?
Pal I am lost for words at this time. I just hope that your wife is giving you the support that you really need, and have to have.
I wish you the best. Rody
2007-01-20 17:52:48 · answer #3 · answered by virginiamayoaunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you can never promise your wife that everything wil be OK (Remember, NOTHING is promised in this life!), what you can do is do is promise yourself and your wife that you will live each day to the fullest from this point on. Don't focus on what you can no longer do - that just depresses you and makes you think negatively. Focus on what you can do today and what you want to do in the future, individually and with your wife.
2007-01-20 17:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by TwinkaTee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't prove it to her. This isn't a "knowledge" deal, but an emotional deal.
Worse yet, when you do get well, the relationship will then be set up where you're the "sick" one, and she's the "over-functioning" one. Therefore, you might have marital problems at that point too.
No doubt both of you have gone thru hell in this. Might I suggest that you ask your psychiatrist for the name of a good therapist for you and your wife?
2007-01-20 17:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by geek49203 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
only time will tell my friend, be patient and loving to your wife, talk to your doctor and see if there are support groups for your wife and see if she wants to join one. you may not be able to show her but you can be reassuring
2007-01-20 17:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her and show her ,give her as much TLC as she gives you. try going out to dinner on occasion. most of all be there for one another. good luck
2007-01-20 17:50:08 · answer #7 · answered by johny1punch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋