We would not mind monetary donations, but we are all set to get our lives started in the home thats already fully stocked!
2007-01-20 09:38:55 · 11 answers · asked by mulderlx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You can write "No gifts" on your invitation, but I wouldn't write anything. People will ask about the registry issue and you can tell them. It is not polite, under any circumstances, to ask for money in a wedding invitation.
2007-01-20 09:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by Isabella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just sent out my shower invitations. I have been living on my own 10 years now and do not really need any household items. I'm more in need of money so we can get our bills caught up, help pay for the wedding, etc. My invitations simply said they were invited. No mention of gifts, money, registry, etc. Hopefully I get cash, but if I get gifts or nothing at all, I'm just happy to be getting married and having people I'm close to celebrate with us.
2007-01-22 06:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude to mention gifts OR a gift registry in any way, in your invitations. It would be especially rude to ask for money gifts.
Do not mention your registry OR your lack of one. If people directly ASK you where you are registered, you can mention that you are not really interested in gifts, and really just want to see everyone at the wedding.
If anyone gives you gifts anyways (and many will), receive them graciously and send thank you notes immediately.
Many will give you money gifts without you being so LOW as having to ask for them, simply because people are lazy and dislike shopping. Just sit back and allow people to gift you with whatever they want to. That is the most polite route.
2007-01-20 11:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You write the address that you want the RSVP envelopes sent to. That could be your own address, a post office box, even your maid of honor's , if that is going to be her assigned job. I'd address them by hand, or consider making labels, though that is not supposed to be good etiquette! I personally see nothing wrong with address labels for the RSVP card, as long as they are neatly done. You also put a stamp on it. And you are right about the big inner envelope. It does have the names of the invited guests on it. The RSVP card itself should either have the names of the guests, or some sort of code on it, so you know where it came from, do not depend on the return address on the RSVP card. It will likely not be there. Just remember to double check it before you send your thank you notes. And I am with twins, the registry cards gotta go. So rude to include these, and guests get very angry, and consider reprisal, like buying you nothing, if they get them. Of course the store gave them to you, and of course they want you to use them! More money for them! But unless you want people to think you are dictating to them that they must buy you a gift, and it has to be certain things from a certain store, then loose the card. Just in case you did not know, guests are not obligated to buy you anything, and do not have to limit their purchase to things you have listed.
2016-03-14 08:47:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least your not wanting to directly ask for money...very tacky to do so and I'm glad you seem to know better!
DO NOT mention gifts on a wedding invitation, the wedding invitation is to ask a person to celebrate the 2 of you joining you lives together, not to solicit gifts. I realize you are not really wanting presents, but if you mention gifts, even the lack of a registry, it will still look like you are expecting one and thats not the purpose of getting married (although it is a nice perk if you get stuff!) and you don't expect people to get you anything, toaster or money.
I say leave it off and let word of mouth do the talking. I'm gettin married in 2 months and thankfully, people want to buy me stuff, :) and are coming out of the woodwork asking where we registered, people will ask you and your family too, and this would be the perfect opportunity to relay your wishes. Please please don't tarnish your wedding invites with mention of presents, I fear you will come out worse that way, plus its just kinda tacky! good luck and congrats!
2007-01-20 10:45:31 · answer #5 · answered by ASH 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should never refer to gifts on an invitation. All gift/registry questions should be directed to your wedding party and your parents. If they ask you directly, you can, of course, respond, but you should never bring it up. To do so would mean that you're expecting a gift, which isn't the purpose of a wedding. Your best bet is to encourage your bridal party to understand that you don't plan to register, nor do you expect gifts, but financial help would be the best way to help you out.
2007-01-22 06:44:01 · answer #6 · answered by hotdoggiegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what you do you are probably going to end up with a few gifts. However I have found that if you just simply don't put in a place of registry than most people will give you a card with a monetary gift inside.
2007-01-20 09:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by agbridal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont write anything...I had a registry for my shower then after the shower any remaining gifts I took off b/c I wanted money for the wedding....most people will give you $$$$ but i few may bring a gift...
2007-01-21 07:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You then don't mention a registry, and you DON'T say that you want money instead of gifts; that is rude and crass and tacky.
2007-01-20 22:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"The gift of your presence at our wedding is all that we could hope for " Is a good line. Its similar to what I used. Or you could just tell your in laws and ask them to quietly spread the news. OR if you have a wedding website you can make a note on there as well instead of on the card.
2007-01-20 09:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by CoffeeDrinker1980 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋