I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and last year I moved in with him at his parents house. I never liked his family but I do love him. I want us to move out but right now we don't have the money and I'm sick and tired of them. Any advice?
(By the way he's going to be 21 soon and I'm 18.)
2007-01-20 09:35:31 · 15 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks for all the advice everybody.
2007-01-20 15:24:26 · update #1
you sound just like me! except i just turned 19 and my bf is 21. at first my bf's dad hated me and i think his mom did too, i felt very uncomfortable there and recently i moved into his house. we cant afford our own house yet but hopefully soon. dont worry. they will grow on you. just be polite and try to talk to them. compliment his mom and try to talk to his dad every once in awhile. it will get better. i promise. ive been living with my bf for 4 months now and it is starting to feel like home.
good luck! email me if you want.
2007-01-20 09:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing specifics, you have to sit with him and put together a plan. How do the two of you break free from them and when.
Despite what others have said, you are not marrying his family. You will eventually move out. Once that happens you will see and be with him 98% of the time. Them - 2%.
You have to find a way to get along while there. If not for your sake, for his. Also, you have to respect the fact that they are providing you shelter.
Try not to respond to things that aggravate you. Take a walk or whatever it takes to avoid conflict. Think, how would you want him to act if these were your parents.
Good luck
2007-01-20 18:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by Layton B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I am sorry but I am going to give you my honest opinion and I don't mean any disrespect.First of all it is never a good idea to live with your boy/girl friends parents.If you want to be in a serious relationship you need to take the steps and build your way up to it.Trying to play house living with his parents is not going to work out.If you don't care for or get along with is parents that is also going to be hard for you if you do get serious enough that you get married because once you get married you not only marry him but also his family.If I were you I would go back home and get back on your feet.When you and your boyfriend have saved enough and are ready to support yourselves then get a place together.It also concerns me that he is 21 and still living with mom & dad.Good luck.
2007-01-20 18:12:33 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not like my husband's family. I could not imagine my life without my glorious husband and damn glad I don't have to see HIS family every day. How someone so wonderful could come from a family of dipshits is beyond me.
If I were you I would smile and bear it for the sake of having the man you love, in your life. You can move out soon enough if you strive for that.
2007-01-20 17:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love, remember in the end when you can move out, it will be the just of the two. It might be because you guys are around each other so much, and once you are by yourselves, things might get better.
2007-01-20 18:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by MJ M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe they let you move into their house when you were 17 and he was 20. No wonder they don't like you, they think you're trapping their son. And by you moving in, they got saddled with another teenager. The only reason they are letting you stay is because they don't want to lose their son. I'd be pretty mad too.
2007-01-20 18:19:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can always move back to your parents.If you are in the relationship long term then you are stuck with the family as in-laws.
2007-01-20 17:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still fairly young, so move back home with your parents and find a new guy.
2007-01-20 17:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, just remember you if you get married, you're also marrying his family! If you can't stand them now, it won't get any better after you say "I do"!
Besides why stay with a loser that still lives at home?
2007-01-20 17:42:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you like his family? what is the reason? What did their do to you that make you not to have ever liked them then maybe I can answer your question properly
2007-01-20 17:45:53 · answer #10 · answered by jaci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋