Theres a girl, of whom I love very much. About 3 months ago she got dumped by her last boyfriend. As a friend I helped work her through her depression, and ultimately she saw how I felt, and we got together. I did my best however to keep them as friends, and did so successfully ( I know stupid, but I wanted her to be happy ) The girl he left her for asked him to ignore her, and he accepted. Of course I convinced him not too. Well a month later his new girlfriend left him. And now he want my girlfriend back. She does love me, and I love her...its obvious. But she says she'd rather be with him. I understand I cant force her to love me even though I really do love her a lot. But I am really scared that if she goes back with him he'll hurt her again. If he did I'd gladly help her again, I cant bear the thought of her being alone. But I feel stupid waiting to see if she does. We are still together, but shes really upset she might hurt me. What should I do?
2007-01-20 09:33:18 · 24 answers · asked by Freedomfighter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd like to add I've loved her longer then 3 months. I've loved her for a while. But I was to scared to tell her, so I just supported her as a friend for a long time.
2007-01-20 09:51:10 · update #1
I'm sorry I thank you all for your answers but I know she loves me. I'm a very skeptical guy but theres no doubt in my mind about that. I know your all thinking "what an idiot" but its how I truely feel.
sorry, I know, I'm probably just a love-blind fool XD
2007-01-22 05:40:59 · update #2
Dont u know nice guys finish last? You were used. If he does it to her again she will come running to you because you are a comfort zone but NOT because she loves you. Then she will dump you as soon as the next jerk comes along. Have some pride and dignity and keep away from her. Go find a nice sweet girl who will appreciate your loving caring qualities and dont waste it on this selfish lady. Wake up before you waste the next few years of your life waiting around for something that isnt going to happen.
2007-01-20 09:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I can see that you really love her. That's what love is about, wanting that person to be happy, even if its not with you. Personally though, I think you should let her go. You sound like such a sweet guy, and if she cant see that then she doesn't deserve you. Yea she might get hurt again, and you can be there to support her. But ultimately its her choice. I think you should go out and look at other girls. There's a girl out there who is way better for you.
2007-01-20 09:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by Frannie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok point no 1 she really does not love u....really don't deny it.... u know wht ....sometimes v love someone sooooo much that we begin to c our love for them in their eyes...it's just ur love being superimposed on her....i know it'll hurt but really she doesn't love u...love is a very big deal....it's not just a felling but it's commitment strength and a lot more than anything imagenable...i m sure u know because u urself love her soooo much....it's great u want to stand by her through thick n thin but it's not that way for her.....she just considers u to be her very good freind.......it's horrible i know....but i am sure if u accept that this is the way it is then u will be able to move on with your life too...........i am sure u r a great guy becuse only really good people can love with all their hearts........u can get someone who is capable to return ur love.........let her be ur friend but draw the line there......y r u being a doormat to her????i mean come on people like u r really rare n any girl would love it if u loved her sooooo much.....but she dosen't apprecialte u or your feeling...don't say no this is the truth....i think u would know that whenu love someone u just love them for who they r and no matter wht happens an ex or no ex u just can't stop loving the other person...she wants to leave u 4 some1 who's already hurt her......she dosen't love u as a lover maybe as a freind but not as a lover...get that n get on....all the best
2007-01-27 16:13:18 · answer #3 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U love her na. So Let her go if she wants to. It should not hurt u coz if she is happy u should be happy too. Say her that trust him but dont overtrust him. One thing more if u dont let her go then as u say that she is really upset, she will remain upset. Dont try to continue as u want. Keep the life to move itself.If that boy really loves her then u should be happy coz she will be happy but If that boy hurts her then she will realise ur importance nd surely come back to u nd it seems that u r really a caring person nd make her to come out from that easily.
Hope it work for u.
2007-01-20 15:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ask your self your at your wits end, she relly does sound like a nightmare. Has something befell to her for her to be this undesirable? if so perhaps some councelling will help or why no longer you, your daughter and your spouse all have scientific care at the same time to work out if which will help issues advance. Im a mum of 8 (3 young ones) and that i will actually say I particularly have in no way had any severe problems with them and theres no way they might disrespect me like your daughter does you. solid success, wish you get issues taken care of quickly
2016-12-12 16:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well luk frnd tell her its not possible 2 leave or 4get him so easily or 2 give up somehow.....hmmm according 2 me she's a fool coz after her bf left her n u were there n perhaps'll b always thr throughout her life as u'v said she shud'v understud n felt tht u r d only one made 4 her,dammit make her feel this 4 u as much as u can by hook or by crook thts d only way...dont let her go.If she's so much upset take her 2such a place she likes n loves 2 spend d time n ud 4get everythng abt d past though its not possible.I m sure it;ll work 4 her as well 4 u 2.Just take d name of GOD n try it n just c u'll win her at n e cost she'll b urs.4m my side ALL D BEST.
2007-01-25 08:26:39 · answer #6 · answered by krishna b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant keep something that does not belong to you.Free her so that your girlfriend will find happiness and love with the right person. If she loves the other guy then you need to step back and move on with your life.Life is full of chances and risks.
2007-01-20 09:39:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please get real and face the facts,,,the girl isn't in love with you and she loves the other guy. she was feeling hurt and lonely after her last boyfriend left her and you turned out yo be a good comforter ,nothing else. she was jus using you for her own needs,not that she is mean or anything. so, stop trying to be soooooo nice to her and let her be. u have a life of your own and enjoy it,...stop trying to make her love you by being nice to her.it isn't fair to u and her. let her go back to her cheap boy friend if she wants,its her chioce.let her learn her own lesson....ok.
2007-01-20 17:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by sasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if she go back then she is blind not you. i under you love her and she love you but ..... i really don't know then. you sound sooo nice i just wish i had a friend like you. but ... so any way ask her flat out who she wants. and if she choose the other guy . cool be her friend but do not go back to her she'll just be playing you. and that is something you do not want. and if it comes to that then find a new girl and stay friend with the other one. but if it does not come to that then she choose right.
2007-01-27 16:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by little devil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be a knight in shining armor. She'll use you and keep you on the side so when it is conveinent, she'll go back to you.
Go here: www.nomarriage.com
or get the book, "10 stupid things men do to mess up their lives". By Dr. Laura
2007-01-20 09:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋