What does it feel like to lose someone you've loved your whole life?

Question

A very hard question to think about maybe, I've never experienced this.

How did you feel? What did you do to overcome the loss?

Answer 1

You dont overcome it you just learn to live with it

Answer 2

It feels like your whole world has stopped turning. I lost my mother last Feb 28th. I was emotionally destroyed. I felt as if I had lost a Mom, a sister, and a bestfriend all in one.I could not function in everyday situations. All I did was cry. I could not even return to work for the longest time. I constantly visited the cemetery which is 176 miles from my house. Just as I was beginning to get a grip on things I lost my sister 5 months later. By this time I felt as if I could not possibly have any grief left. Boy was I wrong!
It is coming up on a year now and there isn't a day that goes by that they are not still in my thoughts, but now it is a more peaceful memory. I guess it never stops hurting it just get more bareable. Hope it is a long time before you have to go through something like this.

Answer 3

I agree wiht Poppy - you learn to live with the new situation. If you think positively about that person's life and all the good they left behind them it helps. We all have negative and positive effects on people and all leave our mark in some way or other so concentrate on the good in this person's life. When my dad died it was very hard . All kinds of feelings go through you and even after months and years you still get moments of great sadness...but it gets less painful as time goes on. You just have to accept that death is a part of life and we can't avoid it, at whatever age it comes. Having religious beliefs helps enormously.

Answer 4

I lost my beautiful wife to breast cancer 17 months ago, today.
We had been together since we were 15 & married for almost 30 years. I miss her desperately & have tears almost every day, I dont believe that time heals I feel as bad now as I did when it first happened. But I must be strong for our 4 wonderful children, the youngest is 22, they have been a tower of strength for me & for each other, especially last year when our youngest daughter got married, she was devastated that her mum was not there to share it with her, but her older sister was absolutely magnificent, looking after her & making sure everything was perfect, their mum would have been so proud of them all.
As to overcomming the loss, we never will, but we will cope by being there for each other & loving each other as we always have.

Good question & some very good answers.

God Bless

Answer 5

Some people react in different ways, some people cry non stop and some people get angry and refuse to accept it but after a while it becomes easier. The pain never goes away but you learn to deal with the pain and remember the good times more.

Answer 6

My uncle died 21 years ago at the age of 40. They said it was bronchial pneumonia, but I wonder. I was 18 at the time and took the hysterical phone call from my grandmother in Florida, where my uncle basically went to die. Have I gotten over it? No, but I cope with it. I have a few mementos from him and that at least makes me feel he is still around. The times I missed him the most was my wedding day and the birth of his great nephew.

Answer 7

I met my love at 14 we dated, we moved in together, then had a baby, then broke up, we were growing at different speeds, and facing different problems it was no ones fault. When I realized that I may never have the chance to grow old with him and watch our son grow up together my heart felt like it was disintegrating and I felt hollow and a sense of dread that I would have to face life without him at my side, I did not get over it we got married instead, when I asked him what he felt when we broke up he gave me the same answer.

Answer 8

i hope you never have to feel that way. really. when i lost my mom to cancer i felt like i was going crazy. literally. i had 2 young children but that didn't matter. i wanted to go with her. i couldn't begin to imagine life without her. i went into a severe depressive state.couldn't eat,sleep or function.i went to the cemetary every day. it was the only thing that made me feel better. it took about a year before i was me again. a different me though.time is the
only thing that helped. grief is very personal. each answer to your q will be different b/c each person grieves in their own way.

Answer 9

not very nice (to put it mildly) its like a living death. i cried 3 months solid, became depressed, lost motivation, & even little things like a song on the radio or the smell of a perfume takes you right back there.

the only thing that helps is time. it worked for me a little but it was 2 years ago & sometimes i still get emotional about it.

Answer 10

I'm glad you've never had to experience this. It's utterly devastating. At first, every breath hurts, every movement is agony, every time you smile or laugh guilt sets in. The pain of not seeing them, not smelling them, not hearing them, not chatting to them over trivial or important things is horrendous. You never get over it - just get used to dealing with this.

Answer 11

i lost my brother aged 36 last year, 2 years younger than me and i `ve lost both my parents these are people i`ve loved all my life , at first it is devastating and u think how will u go on without these people in your life ,life does go on and you always have a sense of loss and sadness with you ,memories make you smile again and keep you going .i always think of how people will feel when i die and would hate my family to be miserable and want them to carry on and enjoy their lives and remember me with happiness.