Do you live your life the way you want to? Or do you stick by the rules and live life on the straight and narrow, always afraid of stepping out of line in case you'll do something that will disappoint your loved ones? It's becoming a very boring life for me, as I've always wanted to be spontaneous and not worry about stuff, but always end up worrying about whether I might make some wrong decisions and make my family less proud of me. It sounds like a really stupid problem, but I have always been afraid of doing anything which would make me feel like I'd failed my family. Its really holding me back. I'm not sure if I've even explained this properly.
2007-01-20 09:30:38 · 11 answers · asked by Megafunk 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes I wish I was more spontaneous and outgoing but being mature and always doing the ''right thing'' is just part of being a strong and wise woman and I learned to accept that and cherish it. (I guess you could say Im the one out of the group who is ''the nerd''...a hot nerd at that! Just kidding lol) So yes, I am content with the way I live my life and I dont worry at all about disappointing my family because I know I wont. I wont even come close. I refuse to. Failing is not an option for me. Tell yourself the same thing and your worries will be gone. Just trust and believe in yourself...even when you feel like no one else believes in you! Tell yourself your going to succeed in everything that you do ...and you'll be fine!
But if you do feel like you have made a ''wrong'' decision in the past or you do sometime in the future, dont stress over it, just learn from it.
good luck :)
2007-01-20 09:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by Fearfully & wonderfully made 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you are not going to please everyone, and that is expected. You sometime have to make decision on what going to impact your life if you are an adult. And you can't be worry about what other people think. You sound very insecure, and you are going to be the most miserable person, we all make mistakes and yet we learn from them that part of growing-up. You are the type of person who want everybody to like you and that's not going to happen. So start living!
2007-01-20 18:58:17 · answer #2 · answered by rma2ks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need a change in your life.
It sounds to me either you been with your partner for a long time and you have changed to become different or you choose your partner too quickly and realized after you were not so compatible and you are not acting yoursel to look better.
Either way you have a problem that need to be solved.
First you have to discuss it with your partner and ask his opinion. Might think you are over doing it and you don't know.
Otherwise, find someone new with who you will be able to live like what you think you are but be honnest with yourself!
2007-01-20 17:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by Guilôme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I already have. Yes, and you should too. There's real freedom. Are you afraid that your family will divorce you? lol Just try it for a day, and if you don't make any seriously drunk decisions, you may always go back. Sort of like, " Try God, and if you don't like him the devil will always take you back."
2007-01-20 17:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have felt like this for the majority of my life. The one thing I have realized is that as long as what I am doing is making me happy (within legal limits, of course), my family is supportive of me and happy for me. Don't let life pass you by, this is the only chance you get!!
2007-01-20 17:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i was for years afraid of disappointing my parents. as I got older I discoverd that you can take your half out of the middle of the straight and narrow and have a little fun while you are trying to do the right thing as well
2007-01-20 17:35:25 · answer #6 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to live life for you not anyone else.
Do you think your family worries about disappointing you.
Wake up and smell the coffee.
2007-01-20 17:35:44 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel exactly the same well. im scared of doing poorly at college cause my mom and aunt and dad are counting on me to do really well and my boyfriend expects me to be perfect at everything. sometimes i just want to go and do something really crazy!!! but of course i do nothing of the sort because im a goody goody. it sucks. but be spontaneous... its not their life. just be you and do what you want..
good luck!
2007-01-20 17:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by marine's girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do what I want. I don't care anything about "failing" other people. They fail themselves all by themselves and they don't need to worry about what I do.
2007-01-20 17:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what i say to myself
its my life
im livin it no one else
dont giv a crap of what ppl think of me
its my LIFE
2007-01-20 17:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋