we'd rather them NOT kiss him? They're coming to see him for the first time next week, and will be traveling on a plane. I don't want them kissing him on the mouth after traveling and being around hundreds on people in the middle of flu season. Is that rude??? Also we've asked them to stay in a hotel because we only have a one bedroom apt. and my husband and I and the newborn and 2 cats all live there, and I feel it would be too crowded and messy with them sleeping on the living room floor for 4-5 nights. Then the middle of the night wakings when I like to go into the kitchen and get a drink and pump sometimes. Is this asking too much??? My husband's kinda making me feel bad about asking them to do this because he thinks we only should've been able to ask them to do this when he was FIRST brought home from the hospital, but not now??? Any advice?
2007-01-20 09:20:46 · 22 answers · asked by Melissa t 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you sick? there is no need to kiss a month old baby on the mouth EVER!
2007-01-20 09:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by Tumbling Dice 5 · 0⤊ 6⤋
I think that the grandparents will be a whole lot more comfortable in a hotel with a real bed than on your living room floor with the cats. As for kissing the kid on the mouth, I would just skip it; it's a god way to get spit up on and I can tell you that is about the most disgusting thing ever. Tell them you're worried about illnesses because the baby is so young and I bet they'll understand. After all, they were new parents once! Just make sure you take them out to eat or go a few places, cook for them at least twice, and let them take the baby for an outing by themselves if they want to. Your husband isn't very considerate if he's making you feel guilty for not making two older people sleep on the floor. I think you're thinking more of their well being than he is!
2007-01-20 09:27:31 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about you but when my husbands parents come for a visit we give up our bed to them and sleep on an air bed in the living room. We by the way are in our 40's and have always done this. So asking family members to stay in a motel is kind of rude. You can offer your bed to them and take the living room floor. Bring the baby out with you in his bassinet. Hope you don't let your cats around the baby. Cat's love the smell of milk and have been known to cuddle up over babies faces and suffocate them. So be very careful there. I don't think your in laws will kiss the baby on the lips. It would hurt their feelings if you didn't let them see their grand baby. Congratulations by the way.
2007-01-20 09:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be honest with the grandparents - they've been traveling and may have germs from other travelers and you would prefer they not kiss him on the mouth. (And don't do it yourselves while they are visiting.) It's not rude - you're protecting the child's health and if they love him, they'll respect that. (they should know this anyway.)
It's only unwise for you or your husband to kiss him on the mouth if you, too, have been around sick people, and you don't want to pass that on.
As to the hotel, that's not rude either. It's more comfortable for all involved and surely they'd rather sleep in a bed than on the floor anyway. Explain your need for nighttime wanderings and that you are thinking of their comfort. Stand your ground with your husband and in-laws (I'm guessing, since he seems to be on their side.) You need your rest and comfort, and a healthy baby.
2007-01-20 09:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by JerseyMuse 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give your baby's immune system some credit. It is much stronger than that. Just make sure the grandparents wash their hands before picking him up. Have you tried not to kiss your son? Yep, impossible. On this point I think you have new-mommy paranoia. I know, I had it too.
As far as the hotel point. I think you are right on target. You are trying to adjust to a new baby and his routine. You do not need others under your feet to stress everyone out. Just make sure your door is open to them throughout the day.
Relax, it will all work out in the end.
2007-01-20 09:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mommatbird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see your point, but as the father of three kids I can tell you that you have nothing to worry about. First, the baby has more antibodies now then the kid ever will in the rest of it's life. Second, people have been kissing babies on the lips for 7 million years and the species has somehow found a way to survive. ;-) Relax.
2007-01-20 09:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Whenever I wanted to do something or not do something regarding my baby I just said the doctor said it.
You can say the pediatrician said that there's this really awful strain of flu going around and she/he recommends not letting people (even family members) kiss the baby near the nose and mouth.
That sounds like a good idea anyway.
2007-01-20 09:26:49 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need to pull those crazed hormones "back" into your body. This is how we act after having a baby.. NIT picking over everything.. and yes we drive everyone nuts...
dont drive everyone nuts.. try to seem normal lol.
Just go with the flow.. get along, b/c if you are putting them out of place or making them feel uncomfortable; you are setting yourself up for a bad visit with them.
Your baby will survive I promise! This sounds like your first btw.
dont worry about all that germs.. i doubt the grandparents will be kissing him/her on the LIPS anyway.. Just make sure everyone washes their hands before holding baby, and everything should be fine...
You should pump in your bedroom in private anyways.. and before bed, bring your drink into your room.. you should be making everyone feel comfortable, not moving everyone to please yourself.
2007-01-20 09:26:13 · answer #8 · answered by yo mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what? I dont get how its wrong to kiss for them to kiss on the lips its your child for goodness sake its ok to kiss the child on the lips I sapose you can tell the grandparents how you feel but personally I think the child will be ok I guess its ok if the grandparents stay in a hotel just because theres not a lotta room. good luck
2007-01-20 09:29:38 · answer #9 · answered by bearcatz_07 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
COME ON! You aren't going to be one of those hygeine freak mothers are you? Your kid is likely to grow up with obsessive compulsive disorder or something with a mother like that. Babies will get ill. Their immune systems need to be challenged so that they can build up the strength to withstand more serious infections in later life. Your breast milk should give the baby all the antibody protection it needs to survive granny's kisses.
2007-01-20 09:26:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are perfectly within your rights to ask that family not crowd the child or handle him too much or closely. A child's immune system is most vulnerable during the first few months, so having too much contact can put the child at greater risk for infection.
2007-01-20 09:25:29 · answer #11 · answered by baka_otaku30 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋