I just cannot be comfortable with myself around others especially around others, i feel lik ehtey are just lokking at anyflaw that i think that I have. For one day a boy will pay me attention but the next i feel like i am not even there, even my friends will forget me, i could look in the mirror one sec and think that i look good but the next i will start making excuses when I am with other people. Can you help me? Because i really need it. i want to feel good and alive..
2007-01-20 09:12:26 · 7 answers · asked by All Of the Above 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not sure anything anyone can say will help your confidence except people complimenting you. If there is, I don't know it so I'm sorry. Confidence is a thing you have or you don't. If you don't, it's not the end of the world. You can get confidence so it's okay. Just look at all the good things about you and don't even think about if anything is wrong with you. Make people want to notice you.
2007-01-20 09:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by xfootballstarx87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find yourself in one of these situations, just leave if that is possible.
Say you have a headache or whatever and go home. Once there review the situation in your mind and see if it is really them or if it is you.
I dont know your friends so I cannot speculate on an answer but once you do find yourself feeling that way I doubt that you would doing yourself any good to stay around.
More importantly however, I think that you would feel better if you realized that real beauty comes from within. I know that sounds cliche but it is true.
Once you feel comfortable INSIDE of yourself, it wont matter if they are looking at your flaws or not. One good way to increase the beauty that you feel inside of you is to do great things for others. Is there a habitat for humanity or a church group where you can do some volunteer work? These things will make you feel great about yourself in a way that makeup and a new pair of expensive jeans wont! I hope that this helps a little bit. Even if it does not make you feel better about hanging out with these friends, it will certainly be a better use of your time and you will be around people that dont give a crap about what kind of jeans you have on or if you use proactiv solution etc (and it looks great on your resume)
p.s. If your friends really ARE looking at you and trying to find flaws, chances are that they are trying to deflect attention away from themselves.
2007-01-20 09:27:07 · answer #2 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly im sure u r very pretty, send me a pic of what u look like or if u have a myspace let m get the address,
i dont have a problem with being honest because i dont know you and will probably never see in my life, soo you can be sure to get the truth,
im a guy in case you didnt know so i'' let you know, younggunnac45@yahoo.com
2007-01-20 10:09:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel this way you are a women and that makes you special in my eyes. As long as you are kind and sweet to others then you are perfect. So don't feel this way you are special. If you want to talk I am here for you. XXX
2007-01-20 09:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be your self and if your friends cant even like you for who you are then there not friends, and who cares what ever one else thinks, do what you want to do
2007-01-20 09:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can change this. No advice will help. You have to believe in yourself.
2007-01-20 09:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself
2007-01-20 09:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by _ 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋