girls i need your HELP!!!!!!?

Question

ok this is whats going on....i started my period about two days ago and im scared to tell my mom!! i dont what to tell her because she is a big mouth and will tell everyone she knows and i dont want that to happen. plus im not the kind of girl that talks to my mom about boys and all that stuff because she tells everyone. im 16 so i know what i need to do about this period thing but i just dont know how to tell my mom and i dont what her telling every one!!! please help!!! this is kind of embarrising and everything but if you could just give me some advise that would help alot!!!

Answer 1

u should probably start by letting her know that u have something to tell her and when she asks u what iit is tell her u will tell her if she doesnt go telling anyone. But truthfully a period is a very common thing which i'm sure u know...it's nothing to be embarrased of because every woman has one. I know how u feel cause when i started mine i was only 12 and scared to tell my mom even when she ISN'T the kind of person that tells everyone my business. You just gotta understand that it is a part of life and even if she does end up telling someone it should not matter cause everyone has one but jsut let her know that u would appreciate it if she didnt tell anyone

Answer 2

Maybe you should start with a talk about when you confide in her it is a sign of your trust. Let her know that every time you tell her something personal, it is another chance for her to be a good parent and keep your personal things private. Tell her that you have something to tell her that she doesn't have to know, but you want to tell her because you are giving her a chance to earn and keep your trust. Give her some conditions so if she tells everybody, at least you get something to hold over her head for the future. My mom told several people that I got my period, but they were all women so it was okay. Personally, the only people that I don't want my personal female events to be discussed with is my male relatives and my male peers. Everybody else I could care less whether they no or not because they can either understand or at least realize that it has nothing to do with them. I think if I had thought to ask my mom not to tell people, she wouldn't have told as many people as she did, but I do believe she would tell somebody. It's ultimately up to you though. You have to decide how important this privacy is to you. You did post this little fact on the world wide web, so telling your mother couldn't be much worse, right? (If I were you, I would tell her. I didn't ever talk to my mom about boys and stuff either, but recently I started talking to her more, and she is more trustworthy than I gave her credit for. Make sure to tell her that you don't want her sharing this event with everyone or she might not realize how important keeping quiet is to you)

Sorry this answer is so long!!!

good luck!

Answer 3

I can understand your situation. First of all, starting your menstrual cycle is nothing to be ashamed of..it's part of the natural transition that we (as women) all have. Your mother might tell people because she is excited-- her daughter is becoming a woman! Since you know how to "take care of the problem" you must also know that hiding those kinds of things will be short lived, at some point, she will see the tell tale signs. Tell your mother about it...but tell her that you feel uncomfortable with her sharing that kind of information with other people. Maybe you guys can go to a neutral place, a restaurant or something..and you can tell her about how her telling your other family members about this would make you feel. You might be pleasantly surprised at what she might say...


Good luck to you.

Answer 4

I am glad that you know what to do, that is a plus for you. Tell you mom that you have something important to tell her but make her promise not to go blabbing her mouth to everyone. Her first thought will be that your pregnant, wrong answer for her. You can have lunch with her alone, like a girls day out and just tell her after she promise not to say anything to anyone unless it is okay with you because it is a personal matter.

Answer 5

Tell her that you need to talk. Say that before you trust her with the information you want to give, she needs to promise that she won't tell ANYONE. Make sure she understands that you would be very embarassed if she told anyone. Then tell her, and when you're done speaking, remind her again not to mention it to anyone.

If she does tell someone sit your mom down again and tell her that you're sorry but you don't feel comfortable telling her things anymore since she can't keep quiet even after you told her explicitly. That will make her rethink her actions, and possibly be a better secret-keeper in the future.

Answer 6

I would have to tell you to just be honest with your mom about this situation. Let her know how you feel and the need to keep it a private thing and you really dont want anyone else to know but her. A period is a normal thing every girl goes through and I always tell my daughter to just be honest with me about whats going on, trust, honesty and communication is important in a mother daughter relationship. let you mom know it is to you too...good luck.

Answer 7

I was scared to tell my mom, too, but it's alright, even if she does tell (cuz thats what my mom did to me). It will be embarassing for a while, but later you won't even care b/c most people don't really care if you're on your period after a while. So just tell her, so you don't have to worry about it for a long time.

Answer 8

well you don't HAVE to tell her. i mean i told my mom b/c i was like 11 and had no pads or anything, but if you have money to buy them every month and dont mind hiding it from her, it doesn't really matter. or you could always ask her not to tell everyone, even though i kindof doubt that would work. good luck either way.

Answer 9

i know how you feel. when i first got my period I didn't tell my mum, but i was quite young and it was really weird for me, but then i got through my first one and i decided there was no point telling my mum until I got my next one, stalling tactics really. Then I went on holiday with my nan and I didn't plan it out right so i got my second there and had nothing with me, so I had no choice to tell my nan, she was great about it and told my mum for me which took the stress off me. so try telling another family member maybe. Truth is though, if you don't trust your mum to not tell anyone, you don't have to tell her, chances are she'll guess but when she confronts you about it you can tell her why you didn't tell her in the first place, then she'll listen to you properly.

Answer 10

It is nothing to be embarrassed about! It only happens to every single female in the world! Tell your mom!