Ok… whenever someone is asked…what attracts you to a guy/girl? or what do you want in a boyfriend/girlfriend? what is the most important quality you want from a guy/girl?
(sorry to be sexist here, but most guys will say, sexy body while most girls will say funny with great personality)
Why is it that most people always lie even though no one knows you in real life. What is the point in lying to us? Do they think it’ll make them look better and not so selfish.
They always say that they want a guy who’s funny with a great personality and nice and caring and most of the girls say that he doesn’t have to be cute, or handsome, at least he’s funny then that makes up for it. But in reality, girls wont really approach guys if their not at least cute or handsome.
If you wont even bother to say hi to a guy who’s not cute or handsome, how would you know if he’s not funny or very nice. You are judging a book by its cover. Did we not learn that we should never judge a book by its cover.
Sorry for ranting on… I just keep seeing the same thing over and over again. girls say that they would rather have a funny guy over a cute guy.
But honestly, everyone knows the truth...... we all want a guy/girl that’s cute, handsome, pretty, beautiful and has a great personality. But the reason no one ever admits it because they don’t want to be known as shallow.
So the question is, why do you lie? We know what we really want but just because we don’t want to sound selfish, we lie to complete strangers. Be honest people! Stop lying! What others reasons do you think make people lie?
2007-01-20 08:46:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You answered your own question. These people do not want to appear shallow. It is as simple as that. No amount of soul searching and digging into their psyche is going to uncover much else. Im sure some are telling the truth, but EVERYONE wants to be with someone who has the best possible genes, its a survival tactic for the possibility of kids. Wow i worded that oddly. Anyways... everyone lies. Women and men. So, be like me. Be miserable and single and never lie to anyone. it makes you a better person.
2007-01-20 08:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course we would all like a hot boyfriend or girlfriend, but people do recognize that that is not important. As far as I can see, looks fade, personality is real. Those looking for a relationship want someone who loves them just for them, who would protect them from any hurt and who will make them fall in love so bad that they've no idea whats hit them. Corny I know, but its true, looks really are just a bonus. But of course, if all you're looking for is a hot a passionate fling, then why worry about having the right mind, all that matters is the body, and as long as both people feel the same there's nothing wrong with that. And also, when you are so in love with someone, surely, all you see is good, and even if they are they the ugliest person in the world, the way they make you feel makes you look at them like the beautiful person you know.
2007-01-20 08:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Behavioral scientist Wendy Gamble identified four basic types of lies for a University of Arizona study in 2000:
Prosocial: Lying to protect someone, to benefit or help others.
Self-enhancement: Lying to save face, to avoid embarrassment, disapproval or punishment.
Selfish: Lying to protect the self at the expense of another, and/or to conceal a misdeed.
Antisocial: Lying to hurt someone else intentionally.
I mostly lie to avoid awkward situations.. I find many situations awkward.
People think it's shallow to say they want someone attractive, but nobody would clearly say they don't want someone attractive (unless they have some psychological condition). Though, for most it's a matter of prioritising which characteristics are most important. This is different in everybody.
2007-01-20 08:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by Deconstitutionalization 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound confused and at the threshold of wanting to form a belief in something but the things you have to pick from are the things you hear from everyone else on the grapevine. Tell you what, the best advice I could give anyone in your shoes is adhere to the basics.
1. Make your beliefs yours and not someone else's. Use common sense and decency when forming them and most of all do not lie about who you are. Be proud.
2. If you engage another person whose beliefs differ from yours, listen to them and realize that their beliefs were formed from their expieriences or teaching and may not be wrong but are not yours and you do not have to accept them but be respectful as their beliefs are as valuable to them as yours are or will be to you. If they lie to you so what.
3. Start a journal if you do not already have one and write about some of the differences you encounter from person to person noting the one's that base their beliefs on experience instead of what others profess. Include yourself in those entries and see if there are trends that lead to groups of if your beliefs differ greatly from the majority. If so you might want to rethink your beliefs.
4. Seek the experience of someone with more experience with people or life and can interject fact and shed light on some of the myths that float around in peer groups. Give it the same respect you would in listening to other beliefs and use it the same way to form your own beliefs for you.
5. Your beliefs and their forming will prove to be very valuable in the day to day living as you grow and mature. Your beliefs will change, your attitudes will modify. You are already on the right track with the metioning of liars so many times. That is a good place to start. Lying is wrong and I do not lie but so many do. You are not going to change that and neither am I but we do not have to believe that it is right and can pattern our lives with that belief. Honesty, what a concept. Now if I were to meet you on the street and we started a conversation we share a belief already about people that lie. That is a common bond between friends and sometimes of greater value than looks, money, possessions. When you meet someone that you share the same beliefs with will that person have the same looks as you would see if they had bad beliefs like lying and deceit? I don't think so.
Bottom line, be you, make you the best their is and that you do not have to be like everyone else because they believe differently. Accept them for who and what they are and you will start to form groups of friends that share the same beliefs you do and soon the others will just take a step into the background and while they do not dissappear completely you will be delighted at your new circle of friends and why. Sorry for ranting but you seemed very genuine in your question and that required a genuine answer. good luck.
2007-01-20 09:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our eyes see way before we can tell what a personality of a person is. Of course as shallow as most of us are we are attracted firstly to a great smile, gorgeous body, etc. But if personality, sense of humor and the works do not follow...it will be very short lived. Honestly we all want the whole package.
My advice? Work on your whole package. Girls will be attracted to you for a multiple of reasons. Maybe friendship will come before lust, but so what? It will probably last longer.
Good luck. I hope I made a little bit of sense?
2007-01-20 08:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by yakimablueyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THATS NOT completly true i have like guys who at first i thought were ugly but then i got to kno them and there personality change it i have even thoought a guy was sexi then got to kno them and thought there the ugliest thing so in reality not all girls lie about that i mean u dont want a butt ugly guy but he dont have to be that great lookin ...
2007-01-20 08:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by juggalette~dopey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest pimp I've ever met was my old roommate. Good friend of mine. He's not attractive in the least. He's pudgy, used to have a shag, turned it into a mullet (for comedic value), and dresses like a porn star most of the time. He gets more girls than anyone else I've ever met. Why? Charisma. Girls don't need good looks. They need an attractive personality.
2007-01-20 08:51:28 · answer #7 · answered by robtheman 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People lie so they can have a good time. Telling the truth and saying bad things like that wont attract anybody they will think that your shallow as you said. They lie so they can have a good time ,thats my opinion.
2007-01-20 08:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Darso2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't lie. I want a chick with feet like you see in my profile and on my 360 page!
2007-01-20 08:50:15 · answer #9 · answered by Submit to her Feet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An answer to that? i wish i knew that one too. 8) i really dont like it when people lie, it just does not make any sense. i suspect that girls lie b/c they dont want to sound to straight forward and guys.. well i just dont know. hope that helped?
2007-01-20 08:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by Allie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋