there's this guy I have a crush on and he knows i have a crush on him. He talks to me sometimes flirts and makes me laugh. But he's been saying mean things about me too like I have spots when i just have a rash and then says if he knew he had spots he would have gone out with me. But then he's really nice to me and always likes to talk. sometimes he even gives me a smile. What do I do?
2007-01-20 08:19:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
his friends have been being more friendly with me more latley
2007-01-20 10:23:14 · update #1
He doesn;t hate you, he is just immature and confused and doesn't know how to interpret or handle his own feelings. You remember how little boys pull little girls hair? This is exactly what is happening, except that your man is no longer a little boy yet he keeps acting like one. Chances are he likes you but he refuses to accept it and come to terms with it, so to make sure no one realizes that he has feelings for you, he says bad things about you in front of his friends to reassure himself and others that he is not into you and yet, when he is around you he acts the opossite way.
Listen, you don't need that idiot in your life, try to get over him asap because he is not worth your time or your feelings. He needs to do a lot of growing up. Stay away from this kind of people and go invest in quality guys. Please don;t take any of his mean comments personally, avoid him whenever possible, and act indifferent around him from now on. I know it's hard, but in time, he'll drop the case and stop saing mean things about you, and who knows, when he feels you no longer have a crush on him, he might as well react in a way you never imagined (i.e. asking you out).... men are like that.
Best of luck..
2007-01-20 08:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by Maria F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to like a guy like that -- he was a total jerk...go out with a group of friends(guys too) and have him come or go to a party with friends where he will be and go with some friends and say hi or something...when he is mean and embarress u infront of ur friends u will probably realize what a bastard he is.
ajajajaj...the guy i liked would help me with my spanish and smile at me or tease me in a flirty way like he would push down my head and then run off laughing and stuff...but he would also tell me i was way too annoying and "u're as ugly as that dog" and stuff
listen...how does he treat other girls...he probably has other female friends whom he treats a lot better than u -- those are the types of girls he likes and u changing won't matter(i tried)
listen...
just leave him be and if he really likes u he will probably ask u out//but he will probably get a different girlfriend...and if u hadn't realized then that he is just a jerk and hates u then u will realize it then
if u even have to question if he hates u then he probably does
i'm sorry
u don't sound very experienced with guys///maybe u haven't had a boyfriend yet?
i hadn't had a boyfriend yet when i liked that guy who treated me like **** but was sometimes "nice to me"...
he hadn't had a girlfriend yet...
he humiliated me in front of some friends including my best guy friend(one of them)
that night i found out he got his first girlfriend a few days before
my best guy friend asked me out a few days later
now that i have had a boyfriend, i have learnt to not fall for jerks
u will learn -- maybe the hard way like i did...but i can assure u that u will find someone who loves u back and u will love that person so much and that person will treat u right and u will be over this guy u like right now...u will probably remember that u liked him but be like "that guy was a jerk!"
maybe when he was just starting to know u he was nicer...but eventually as he got to know u better decided he didn't like u all that much...but truthfully it doesn't matter why he treats u the way he does...the reason is not important...what is important is that he does treat u poorly although at times he treats u well...
don't worry
u will be fine
good luck and u will find someone who DOES love u
xao:)
2007-01-20 16:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know in the school playground when a boy liked you - he would always be horrible to you ? it could be that - or it could be that he is a flirt and enjoys the fact that you fancy him - men can sometimes be insensitive when they know that someone fancies them - and play with emotions - at the end of the day if someone really likes you - they would make a move on you - men really are not that complicated - if they don't call you after a date it's not because your phone is broken or they lost your number it's because they didn't want to - when the right one comes along it just clicks and he will want you as much as you want him and the games are put aside - enjoy yourself - life is not a dress rehearsal sweetie :)
2007-01-20 16:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by zsphodge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is profoundly insecure. I had a similar thing with a guy I liked and he liked me too, but he was so unsure of himself and had so many hang ups that he acted like a absolute prat sometimes and was all nice at others. I thought he was worth putting up with the crap for, but it turned out that he wasn't at all. Leave him to his silly, insecure self, the quietly confident and deep down self assured types are far nicer. I have one of those now, a vast improvement, I must say!!
2007-01-20 16:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by Princess Paradox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to the previous comments. He is obviously not worth it! You are a special person, you deserve so mush more than a guy who is playing on the fact that he knows that you have feelings for him. Stay away! Hard, i know, i've been there too!
Let us know how it turns out!
2007-01-20 16:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he hates you. From what you've written I'd say he likes you, because he's teasing you.
What would you prefer he does, bring you flowers every day and ask how your mum is? Boring! I'll bet he's a laugh and just likes winding you up occasionally. :)
2007-01-20 16:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you but hes just trying to hide it! i had the exact same thing with a lad! took me 3 years to get with him though but we're not talkin now!! if u cant take the bad comments get rid but if you really truly like him stick it out because it will become worthwhile in the end! good luck!!
2007-01-20 16:23:22 · answer #7 · answered by Little_G x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is imature and very selfish.
he doesnt care for you as a person or it wouldnt matter what you looked like.
when he gets a spot make sure you say nasty things to him so he knows how it feels.
2007-01-20 16:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this person really likes you its just he is unsure if you like him back and he trys to hid that he likes you by saying these things about you. i think you should just tell him how you feel about it but tell him you don't want to ruin your friendship and that's why you haven't told him about it before.things are always better when they are out in the open.
2007-01-20 16:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by jayne c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he talk about you behind you back that is not cool. but the reason 4 that might be he is afaid to show his true fealings. but you never know. i mean. he may just be a jerk.
2007-01-20 16:25:21 · answer #10 · answered by chantell M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋