2007-01-20 08:18:57 · 17 answers · asked by michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Society has placed more value on being able to attract the opposite gender than the basic qualities of a personality or developed traits or accomplishments that promote abilities and proficiencies that lead to making good decisions and solving the problems and questions of everyday life. In other words, it is easier to feel good about yourself if you have lured a member of the opposite sex into your life. That seems to be a status symbol of accomplishment.among the feminine gender.
2007-01-20 08:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't necessarily agree, but I would imagine that if they are feeling more self confident it's because the fact that they have a boyfriend says that they are wanted; desirable; and so they have something which those who are not with a boyfriend are lacking of.
However, to me it's not the fact that they have a boyfriend that would make them more self confident, it's the fact that they are confident that the guy loves them.
After all, men can have girlfriends for many reasons which don't always involve love. Sex/ hide their homosexuality/ prove they can do it/ competition....
So, it's not a question of having someone, although for some women, yeah, it's an achievement.
I think it's more to do with feeling fullfilled, happy, loved, important, precious...
That would make any woman feel more confident if they were not already.
2007-01-20 16:46:32 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that, I'm afraid. If a girl isn't confident when she doesn't have a boyfriend, she is obviously insecure and having a boyfriend must just mask that. I went through a phase of not having a boyfriend for 5 years because the men I met were so insecure and tedious that I just couldn't be bothered with any of them. I wasn't lacking in confidence during this time though. I have a boyfriend now and I'm absolutely no different in any way, other than the fact that I'm often seen hanging around with this cute young man...!!
2007-01-20 16:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by Princess Paradox 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hiya
Although it shouldnt be the case, it unfortunately is a measure of self worth because at the end of the day, having a boyfriend basically means some1 else finds u good enough to be with ie beautiful enough, lovely enough, fun enough etc. I admit i did suffer from that extremely when i was younger from the ages of 18 - 20 (im 21 now). I really wanted a bf (not just coz i was desperate for the physical aspect coz im not the kind of gal 2 have 1 nite stands) but i spose i wanted reassurance i was pretty and fun etc. I went to uni and found it IMPOSSIBLE to find a bf - the 1s i liked didnt like me and vice versa - and i was frustrated both mentally nd physically. Cutting a long story short i had 2 wait a looong time 2 find a bf at 20 who treated me like utter cr*p despite me being good 2 him, but my low self confidence made me stick with him until he dumped me just coz i sooo wanted 2 be in a relationship. Luckily im now in a perfect relationship with an older man - ive now learnt 2 b comfortable in myself nd now will never rely on a man for making me feel good about myself even if im single for the next 10 years (... well maybe not that long lol im still young hehe) Hope that helps :)
2007-01-20 16:37:22 · answer #4 · answered by filly_oakey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who has a great relationship with their partner is going to feel good for the majority of the time. People talk of having a spring in their step.
Only if you are in an abusive relationship would this not be the case.
As for not feeling self-confident if you're single, it depends on the sort of person you are. Some people don't need to have a significant other half, whereas others need somebody in their life or else they can feel worthless.
2007-01-20 16:28:41 · answer #5 · answered by Gilligan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because somebody else recognizes the great person that I am. Otherwise I feel vulnerable. And I'm afraid of rejection so I don't usually make any moves. It might be about fitting in too, because most girls I know have a boyfriend and I don't. It sucks.
2007-01-20 16:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by micha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know plenty of women who are self confidant that don't have a bf. but over all i think when someone has a good bf that helps boost confidence because they make the woman feel good about themselves. but i think it's important to have the confidence first and then find a man!
2007-01-20 16:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know, it's a funny one! I always get more guys asking me out when i've got a boyf! Maybe it's the I know i've got someone back home waiting for me. Maybe it's the unavailable thing. Men like the thing they aren't allowed, the challenge! The girl who i can go after and the consequences won't be a relationship!
2007-01-20 16:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most females can't last for even a short time without a boyfriend. It then means they have to use their own money.
2007-01-20 17:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by downunder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it make a female less confidant well my own experience of ones i have been out with. knowing God,s love makes me feel confidant.
2007-01-20 16:51:19 · answer #10 · answered by denise g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋