Today I tried talking to him but I felt like he avoided me. I didn't used to talk that much with him but he would joke around, I smile at him and say small things. I told someone he was cute looking when that person told him. Nothing else, I don't have a crush on him because my job is more important. But now he will avoid me, if he sees me he doesn't want to be in the same room as me. Whats wrong?
2007-01-20 08:08:07 · 10 answers · asked by Questions 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Maybe since someone told him you thought he was cute he took it the wrong way and maybe he is shy and finds it awkward to be around you?
2007-01-20 08:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never good business etiquette to discuss a co-worker's personal attributes, whether good, bad or ugly, with other co-workers. Remarks will invariably be circulated to everyone. There are so many claims of sexual harassment these days that many people, especially men, want to steer totally clear of anyone who makes remarks that can be construed as personal or sexual interest. Your intent may have been innocent enough, but your remark was unprofessional. Not only that, but your grammar in your question is not good. If your speech is the same way, an educated person will steer clear of any involvement because they don't want to be with someone who doesn't make an effort to better themselves. Take adult basic education courses to improve your writing skills and speech. It'll make you more marketable and can lead to a better job. Never stop learning about new and interesting things. If you don't have much to talk about that is interesting, an educated or interesting person won't be interested in you. Self improvement is the way to success in relationships. Good luck.
2007-01-20 08:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by LadyLgl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are focus in your job, that´s excellent. There´s no need to be worry about this co-worker. Talk to him the same way you just to IF he let you. If this situation does not mess with your performance / grow at your job, don´t worry. Keep it professional.
Now, he MAYBE avoid you because he doesn´t have a crush on you, neither. And he doesn´t want to give you a wrong idea. You can try (no pressure) one day, talk to him in a informal way and let him know that he´s cute but not SO CUTE to fall in love with him, and he doesn´t have to avoid you, because your career is more important, and you don´t have time to crush on anyone (a little exagerate.. :P)
P.S. Be careful to whom you express yourself about co-workers with people at work, this situation would be avoid if "someone" don´t say anything. Because no only matters "what" other say, it`s important "how" they said it and to "who" is critical.
I hope this can help you! :)
2007-01-20 08:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by Marian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons. Don't worry, you haven't done anything wrong, so you shouldn't feel any sort of blame.
He may not be ready for a relationship or may be going through some sort of rough scrap (coming out of a relationship, trouble in a current relationship). He may want to remain single for a while (vocational reason for instance), and so being around you might put that objective in jeopardy (because he may be attracted to you, or there might be the potential he would be, etc.). Or maybe he mistook what your friend said to be more than what's really going on.
Maybe just give him space for a while. When you're around him, just be yourself, especially be cheerful, and show him you want to be professional about everything. If it persists to the extent that it's awkward, I dunno, maybe a short note or chat with him trying to clarify things would be helpful. You might even try to ask the person who told him to begin with to try to clarify things for you on your behalf. But in short, keep things simple and straightforward.
2007-01-20 08:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by greyrider1000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answerer. He might think that you are trying to make advances at him. Or, he could be attracted to you and might be trying to avoid you because he doesn't want a romantic relationship with you. If this is the case I think it's a good idea for him to avoid you instead of do what many guys do, which is tease and make fun of the women they are secretly attracted to.
2007-01-20 08:22:02 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess he's not feeling you, even though you're not really into him and just think he's good looking, he might think it's more and maybe is too shy to still be able to talk with you and stuff. most likely it will go away, so don't worry about it too much.
2007-01-20 08:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have an antisocial coworker. Keep being nice-you will be the better person!
2007-01-20 08:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy Lou 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he got scared off. maybe hes just gay. who knows. confront him. just say hey i notice your a little stand-offish towards me now. did i do or say something to offend you? can i apologize and can we start over? things like that. maybe he liked you first and just got spooked.
2007-01-23 15:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by xtal6872 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not as though you were sexually harassing him, so whatever is going on it's his problem and not yours. Just be yourself.
2007-01-20 09:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you scared him
just back off and leave him alone
2007-01-20 08:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋