If his parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner, and only the rehearsal dinner, should I put them on the wedding invitations? Also, I don't know if my parents or his parents will end up paying for things later, but as of right now we are footing the wedding by ourselves. Should we put parents on the invites? I don't want to make them feel excluded or anything.
2007-01-20 08:07:55 · 66 answers · asked by tonythelizard 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's your wedding, you can put whatever you want to on the invitations.
2007-01-20 08:10:54 · answer #1 · answered by UNITool 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Yes, you should put them on the wedding invitations - regardless of what they're paying for or who's paying for what.
Traditionally, the brides parents pay for the wedding, and the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal dinner and drinks, but if you and your guy are possibly footing the bill for the wedding itself, would you want to leave YOUR parents off the invites ?
You're only going to do this once, so put them all on and avoid future problems. At least in the end, you will know that you did the right thing.
2007-01-20 08:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You make out the invitations the way you want them to be if you are paying for them and the wedding. We put our parents on our invitations, but that was because I wanted traditional invitations. We paid for everything involved in our wedding but the food at the reception and the food at the rehearsal (which was pizza, beer & pop at our club house in the apartment complex we used to live at.). It wasn't cheap at all, but almost 17 years later we are still together. Good luck & have a great time. Do everything you have ever dreamed of....you only get married the first time once.
2007-01-20 08:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well usually the father has to give the bride away. So, that's a given unless someone else is giving you away. Also the parents aren't supposed to just be invited to the wedding, they are a part of the wedding party. They are to sit in the front, right behind the bride and groom standing at the altar. If you've already moved out of your parent's house and living on your own, then it is up to your and your fiance' to finance your wedding. The reason that parents used to pay for the wedding was because the future bride and groom still lived at home with the parents. So, the parents would pay for the wedding and the future bride and groom would save for their home together.
But your parents bought you into this world, so if they are not going to be a part of the wedding, they should at least be invited.
2007-01-20 08:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Gena 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's tradition to put the parents of "Joe" and the parents of "Mary" invite you to attend their wedding. It doesn't matter who pays for what. Tradition also states that the groom's parents cover rehearsal, and that's it. Bride's parents get the rest. Think about any sons you may have. Would you want their future wife to exclude you because you could only afford to cover rehearsal? It's their child too. Include them. If you're determining who to include based on what they can pay....then you may not be mature enough to get married anyway. Tradition may state that parents pay for weddings, but anymore, people do it on their own. If you need to wait a year to better afford it, then do so. Your relationship will hold out. If it doesn't, then it's a good thing you waited and saved yourself the trouble of a divorce.
2007-01-20 08:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by yocum1219 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Technically, only the people paying for the event should have their names on the invitation. Therefore, they should make their own invitations with their names on them for the rehersal dinner. If you two are footing the bill of the wedding, your names are the only ones that need to be on it. However, if you want to do a nice gesture and include your parents name, go for it! However, I'd caution you to think twice before putting only one set of names. If neither set is helping to pay for the wedding, don't alienate the one of the sets.
2007-01-22 06:47:48 · answer #6 · answered by hotdoggiegirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should put them on the invitations. Parents always want to have an invitation for a keepsake and because it is a precious time in the lives of their children. I applaud you for paying for the wedding yourself. Traditionally, the bridegroom's parents pay for the rehearsal dinner the the bride's family pays for the wedding itself. Since you don't know what either party is going to put into the wedding I would suggest that you sit down with them individually and discuss it with them along with your plans. Then you can better prepare a budget and know what you can afford for a honeymoon.
2007-01-20 08:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by StarGalactica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should. It's not about who's paying for what, it's about honoring your parents and the good job they did raising you to this point. In the end, will it really matter whether you took credit for paying for the wedding yourselves, or will you just be glad that you included your parents? I got married in October and I found that some of the little details really didn't mean that much. What matters is, you're getting married. Don't let the wedding itself and all the planning become more important than that.
2007-01-20 09:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by Mr&MrsWoody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is paying for what doesn't really make any difference. You invitations can simply say that " His name & Your name cordially invite you to join them on the occasion of their wedding" or whatever. You can add parents names if you wish. Or Not. Traditionally the Grooms parents pay for the wedding rehersal dinner. Brides parents pay for the Wedding. Unfortuniately sometimes they can't always do this depending on their circumstances and they shouldn't be punished or made to feel less of themselves because of it. Use your best judgement and don't start your marrage out with problems because of inconsaquencal issues that may come back to haunt you. Don't add one set of parents without adding the other.
Enjoy your life and congratulations.
2007-01-20 08:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by Dumb Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course they should be on the invitations- traditionally they are only required to pay for the rehearsal dinner and the alcohol. in vietnam which is my husbands culture the grooms parents pay for everything here the brides parents pay for wedding. our families are splitting the costs of the wedding that way it's fair to everyone. both of our parents will be listed on the invites and it shouldn't be any other way regardless of the situation as long as they are both in your lives.
2007-01-20 08:36:04 · answer #10 · answered by trini1gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they should be on the invitations. They did have have a son you are about to marry.
Traditionally, the parents of the groom take care of a few of the expenses including: the marriage license, officiant's fee, corsages, boutonnieres, the bride's bouquet, groomsmen gifts, liquor, and the reception DJ or band. And the bride’s parents pay for everything else. Then again, today’s guidelines of who pays for what are very flexible -- many times, the parents of the bride and groom will split the wedding expenses in half, or sometimes into thirds, depending on whether the couple pitches in. In the end, the amount of money you contribute depends upon your financial situation and how much you’re willing to contribute.
2007-01-20 08:22:25 · answer #11 · answered by kermy98 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋