I have noticed that mothers treat their sons very differently from their daughters. It's like their son hung the moon or something and they act as if their son could do no wrong. Most of my friend's mother-in-laws (and mine) behave this way. I'm just curious why this is. Any input from mothers who have boys?
2007-01-20 08:00:36 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No need to get hostile, it's just something I've noticed over the years. My mother-in-law is very nice to me, but that doesn't change the fact that she treats her son like a prince and her daughter (not me) like a prisoner.
2007-01-20 08:10:33 · update #1
I come from a family of two girls...no brothers.
2007-01-20 08:13:21 · update #2
i have 3 sons no daughters,but i do have a brother and 2 sisters ,now saying that i can answer your question in 2 ways 1. old saying is a son is your son till he takes a wife but your daughter is your daughter for the rest of her life, my mom use to say that and i find it to be true in many ways.so in saying that maybe the mother is trying to hold on to her son because he now has another woman in his life that he puts first an she feels is taking her place.2. i do beleave girls mature faster then boys, and dont seem to get into as much trouble and the mother feels it is her place to give him the extra help he needs to become a man, my brother was 5 yrs. older then me and at age 12 i was more responsible then he was at 17. as mom would say he didn't have the brains to come in out of the rain.
2007-01-20 08:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by mylilsun 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Honestly I have noticed this in both my own life and the lives of others. I think that it is like this because mothers and fathers for that matter see the daughter as needing more protection. This means that there are going to be more rules and put downs when the daughter does something wrong. Plus many people make the excuse still that boys will be boys and that girls are supposed to act like little ladies. Strange how that it is still this way even today.
2007-01-20 08:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have a theory about this. Women look all of their lives for a relationship with a male that is not clouded by sex. That can be had by a father, but it is certainly not a given. Brothers are usually no help because since they are close to the same age, the brother is just dealing with his own life growing up. A son fills this need.
Daughters/Mothers and Sons/Fathers have some sort of inherent conflict because they are the same gender. It is either a competition or a sense of knowing the other too well.
Sons/Daughters can have a similar bond to that of Mothers/Sons, but this is usually clouded by the father's desire to protect his daughter at every turn.
2007-01-20 08:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by K Dog 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I do not think so. I have seen this situation time and time again and most mom's do favor the boys over the girls. Boys never have to do chores except maybe take the trash out AND then even with that one chore they almost always make a mess. In my life, my mom was pretty fair and the boys had to share the chores with my sister and which resulted in my brothers being very neat and they were both married and still are to women that adored them. It does make a difference and moms (not all but most) need to start treating their boys the same way that they treat the girls. I can see only positive things happening, and definitely marriages that last.
2016-06-04 06:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 boys and 2 girls. 1 boy and 1 girl do not give me such a hard time, but the other 2 do. I do not treat them different, they all get the same punishment, the same love the same everything that comes from my heart. None of my kids have ever complained about being treated worse than the others,
2007-01-20 08:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The son could be younger and that's the reason, he needs help leading his life in the right direction. The daughter already knows how if she's older. If that's not the reason (age difference) it could be that the mom likes the son more than the daughter. (Sounds really mean but it happens)
2007-01-20 08:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is not true of all parents, but maybe some mothers have soft spots for their youngest children. I know a mother who's oldest is a girl, who she treats normally, the middle child is a boy, who gets similar treatment, but her youngest daughter seems excessively spoiled. I think parenting methods vary from person to person and are all flawed (otherwise there would be perfect people and the world would collapse on itself XD).
2007-01-20 08:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by WeirdKitten 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a son and daughter and I treat them the same.
My mother treated me and my brother differnt he got away with everything where at times I wonder if I was even her daughter the way how she treated me. I have no idea why parents favor any of there children. I love both my children the same and treat both my children the same. Yes my son who is 2 gets to do more things with me and that is only becuase my daughter is in school and I have no baby sitter. but that is the only way they are differnt.
2007-01-20 08:05:00 · answer #8 · answered by crazziegrl14 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I totally understand what you are saying and my own personal experience causes me to agree with you.
I'm the oldest of two. I have a younger brother. My entire life I was second best where my mom was concerned. She loved that my brother was an athlete like she had been. I was more of an academic. They always had this bond that I tried to have but she always shut me out. She liked to do things, just the two of them. But she could never be bothered to do things with me. I also had to grow up hearing how she had always hoped for boys. "I love you because you're my daughter but I had always hoped you were a boy." It was like I had disappointed her from birth and I was never going to live it down.
I now have two boys. When I was pregnant with my second she went on and on about how she had always wished she'd had all boys. "I wouldn't trade you for anything but I always wanted all boys." Gee mom, thanks!
I'm pregnant with my third boy and she hasn't said anything about it.
Honestly, I have no idea how I'd be if I had a daughter. I didn't have the best role model. I sometimes think if I had a girl I'd do great because I'd make sure she'd never feel like I did when I was growing up. But apparently I wasn't meant to have daughters because I'm going on boy #3.
2007-01-20 10:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by Amelia 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying. My brother was always treated better then me. I now have a son, 9 months, and a daughter, 3 yrs, and i make it appoint to treat them equally. I do notice that too tho. More parents should stop and think what they are doing to their kids for their future.
2007-01-20 09:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋