i may want kids but am not sure and i am almost 30 will i regreat it if i dont have them
2007-01-20 07:55:40 · 29 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No it's not a must. Only have them if you want to.
2007-01-20 07:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well of course it is not a must! and it is also not a right. Babies are a gift from God, and if you don't agree then maybe you should ask where else they come from....cos you can't have one just for the asking! MOST women will be able to have a child but not all. Now how do you feel? If i said you COULDN'T ever have a child.....do you feel relieved? sad? or happy? or what?
Why don't you get one of those new tests that have come out.... sorry cant remember the details but you can test how fertile you are now. I think they are pretty pricey though. Google might turn up details.
Try and think ahead 10 years. You will be nearly 40. What do you want to be doing then?
I can only go by my own experience. I am 49 and have 2 kids and i would have been devastated if i couldnt have had them. They really ARE my pride and joy.
Faith x
2007-01-20 08:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you won't regret it later. If you don't have the urge to have a child by now you most likely never will. Although people having their first child past the age of 30 years now days is becoming more common than it was in the past. If you never have a child you won't be alone. There are many women that has never had children. Never think of having a child just because you think you should. If you ever do get the urge to have a child, be sure that you will love it for the rest of it's life, well enough to sacrifice your needs for your child. Always remember your child will always come first and above anything else.
2007-01-20 08:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most certainly it is not a must. If you don't have children, you will never regret it. When I look at my friends whom can barely make ends meet, because they have to feed and clothe their kids, I am re-assured that I made the best choice in the world; I had a vasectomy when I was 20, and never had kids! I am damn thankful of it. I can have all the wild sex I want. I need never worry!
Live up life. Travel, and enjoy yourself. Don’t waste time, and money on more kids, in this world that is so polluted and overpopulated.
Will jerks call you selfish? Yes, they will, but they are clueless. Having children is selfish. See the links below if you have any doubt.
God Luck!
2007-01-21 05:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by Marvin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a personal choice and you may or may not regret it. It takes some soul searching if your not sure about kids...I'm super happy I have a son, but that's me, and I wouldn't trade him for the world.
Having kids is very rewarding and very wonderful if your ready, but it can be challenging and hard work as well. Take some time and think it through, and ig your only 30 you've still got some time to decide...the other thing to think on is if your significant other wants them as well!
2007-01-20 08:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by bheithcao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are born to be parents, and others are not.
Some want to keep their family trees going on in future generations--others couldn't care less about that.
You still have time--many women get the career thing in a good spot first, then decide to have a child when nearing 40. You also need to consider the baby's dad. Is he going to be around, and a good father? Kids need all the help and support they can get.
Think long and hard before making a firm decision.
2007-01-20 08:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids are an option not a necessity for everyone, some people want them some don't, I believe if everyone in the world felt the need and could have them then we would be over populated, its natures way of keeping us a a good level, well that's how i like to look at it, and at the end of the day only you have the answer to that x
2007-01-21 07:43:35 · answer #7 · answered by trouble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the opposite. To bring kids into this terrible war torn World is something that I am completely against. The climate is up the wall. Politically we are a nonsense,plus the divide between east and west has never been wider.
2007-01-20 08:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by Richard B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your own personal decision, I have read that more and more single people don't want kids, especially men, because of their lifestyles, they are into their careers, they want freedom. Kids 'tie' them down.
I love my child. I thought I never wanted kids before I had one. Kids are a blessing, the are the next generation. Kids are cool to know. If you are unsure about wanting a kid, do you know anyone that has kids? Just spend sometime with them..see for yourself. I wish you luck in your decisions.
2007-01-20 08:10:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what adoption is for. I am 28 and have no plans to have children anytime soon. Nor do I think I want any children. I would like to adopt but not now maybe later.
I just say that I'll be the fun auntie!
2007-01-20 08:01:06 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you won't regret it, but you'll know when the time is right and with the right man. You can have kids at any age. It's just harder when your the women. Or when you get older find a young lad and have kids with him.
MJ
2007-01-20 08:00:13 · answer #11 · answered by Mr. Jeff - It is what it is ☺ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋