My "man" says he can't decide between a woman he had before and I...I am so confused and begin to wonder if he keeps me just for sex.I believe that he loves me but something is holding him back to the other girl.Please I need your advice on what to do...
2007-01-20 07:15:09 · 7 answers · asked by love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why be this guy's second fiddle when you can be the queen of some other guy's world?
2007-01-20 07:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on a sex strike! I don't know how often you have sex, but you could say that you're not going to have sex for a week; a month; a season; even a year if needs must! If your man is still with you after this time then I don't think he's with you just for the sex.
As for an excuse/a reason.. you could give up sex for lent - which is in Spring. Not TOO long away, but I'm not sure about if you want to do things closer to the present. Maybe someone else can offer suggestions.
Good luck!
2007-01-20 07:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by Deconstitutionalization 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,in a way because the past girlfriend ,depending on how long they was together they have shared a lot of things together . So at this point now he's in a relationship that he likes you a lot too, but he really can't get over the past girlfriend deep down,but the new girlfriend have qualityies he love also and he don't wanna lose what he have to go back to something that might not want him back. So now he's trying to hold on, but at the end it's not gonna work . Because some one is going to get tired,and if i was you i'll let him be free. If you love him and he love you,will you love him enough to let him be free,and if he loves youand it's for you it will he will come to you if it's meant to be. Don't beat yourself over one guy,there's plenty guys out there. Remember this don't look for love let love come to you.
2007-01-20 07:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by creamy k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can care for two women...he can't love two women (not in the truest sense). He may love her, but love sex with you. Doesnt mean you're not special to him, but it does mean that she's still special to him. You have to consider what you want out of this relationship. If you want him exclusively...tell him. If he can't decide...decide FOR him and move on. His indecision is how he politely tells you (so he thinks) that you're not worth it. Leave him and see if he comes after you...cut off the sex. That will make alot of things more clear.
Hope this helps
2007-01-20 07:23:14 · answer #4 · answered by Soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he does love you both, just in different ways. He loves one of you for the "motion" and the other for the "emotion". Men love sex...therefore they can love many women. However, once a man finds a women he loves at an "emotion" level, he will always go back for more (if she lets him).
My boyfriend on the other hand says, "it's not what I want, it's what he gives me". (He acts tough..."HE" came back for more!)
My suggestion is not to be so readily available for your man. You need to go out with girlfriends and meet other people...men... Even if you do nothing, don't let him know your sitting around waiting for his call. He expects you to be there but isn't doing that for you. If you do make plans, don't let him talk you into cancelling for him. If he wants you, he will figure it out.
2007-01-20 08:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Leave this man-you can't stay with him unless he can decide. A man can only truly love one woman, and it sounds like the one he loves is not you.
2007-01-20 07:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by punkchickatheart54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man says that he truely loves you...but he still has feelings for another girl, I really doubt that the love for you is really TRUE. Yes, he might Love you, but not the true love type. I say give him a break for a little while, let him deicide who he really TRUELY wants, besides...thats not fair to you at all.
2007-01-20 07:20:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he can't decide, do not give him an ultimatum. You decide for him and run, run, run - don't walk away from this situation.
This jerk is keeping you as a convenience. Take out your self-esteem, dust it off, then dust him off and find someone else. I mean someone you really wants you.
2007-01-20 07:20:44 · answer #8 · answered by Mature Witch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm... if he says he loves you but still feel something for the other girl... then i don´t think he really means whst he says... i don´t doubt that he could still be with the other girl... the reason why he is still with you, i think it could only be answered if you asked him... and one question... do you want to be with a guy who ca´t decide between girls..?
2007-01-20 07:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is playing the game....move on and broom him
2007-01-20 07:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋